QuestionHi Dr. Sharma
I am indian living in the US 10 years. I am thirty and wife is 24. Been married and living
together for 10 months.
Everythings if fine with us. except she seems to complain and withdraw when we go to
public places. There has been times when I was looking at girls but I have told
her I do not do it anymore. I have not looked at girl for the last 3-4 months.
but she is still accusing that I am looking at girls even when I am not. I want
to change the situation. How would i convince her that I am not looking?
is this kind of accusation normal for newly wed. How do I make things better.
I do not want to be defensive and angry ? what do you say and suggest. I
thik a lot and even when I am deep in my thougts in public she feels that
I am checking out women.
Please help...I want this relationship to grow and this is creating problem. is this common problem in relationship.
I am 100% sure I am not looking
Thanks
Ajit
AnswerHi Ajit, Let me clear first, i am a relationship expert, hypnotherapist and not a doctor (Dr.), as you have mentioned me as Dr. Sharma, Just Mr. Sharma is wonderfull. :)
Now lets get to your problem.
Sometimes females percieves thier man is looking elsewhere when insecurity in relationship exisits, or a new relationship started and she is not sure what's going on in the mind of the man.
Sometimes females just make up their own mind from the other daily behaviours, ot talks of the man. Like you thought bec i am answering relationship questions I must be doctor, I didn't wrote anywhere but people when they call me first time they call me Hello Dr. and then i have to give 2 minute of this speech. See it was you yourself made your own mind due to your own perception to call me Dr. same way your wife made her perception that you are looking at other females.
Dear Ajit , but the fact is if she is saying she must have catched you, may be glancing someone else. Either way to fix it when you are with her make sure you are not looking anywhere else especially towards females who are more beautiful than your wife. Rather tell her one line .... all females except her are your cousin sisters in the world :) so she be secured.
Don't worry this is common problem in newly weds till 2-3 yrs especially indian females. But make sure to be nice to her because she is saying she loves you and she doesn't want to loose you ... give her this security and you will be allright.
And don't worry relationship will grow as she loves you and you love her.
good luck to both of you... dudho nahaon puto falo...
