QuestionMy husband and I split last summer-after my mother and grandmother passed suddenly things went downhill and long story short "he needed to be on hs own" we were together 10.5 years. I have now relocated to the same city he is in and saw him for lunch yesterday and he just treated me like a total bud and even let it slip he is taking a "friend" to see the musical Cats. How can he be so detached after everything we have been through??????
AnswerHi Sarah,
It seems quite clear to me that he is seemingly moving on or has moved on. His need to be alone may have been something more. I do not know the details, but I imagine that he has been working on making a new life for himself since you have been split up.
If I understand correctly, you have been apart for more than a year now. I realize that you are hurt by his distance, but he may not feel the same way you do after a year of separation. Men seem to be able to distance themselves from past emotions faster than women from my experience.
I strongly suggest that you continue to move forward with your life as well. If you are both meant to find yourselves together once again, I hope that it will be his move and not yours, as he was the one who chose to move on initially.
Your 10.5 years brought you good memories and bad. Keep the good and use them in your quest for more of those in your future. Time is a limited resource...use it wisely. Don't dwell on issues that you cannot control.
Keep your distance emotionally as it will save your much pain and suffering.
All the best Sarah,
kind regards,
Don.
