QuestionThanks for this. Lastnight he e-mailed me saying his decision to be on his own had nothing to do with me how much he loved me, he needed to do this and no one was right for him because he had to be on his own and there was nothing anyone could have done. He says he loves and cares for me and believes this was the right thing for him to do. I feel like it is a slap inthe face that he feels leaving me was the best thing for him and he says things like "what is meant to be will be" and he is positive and optimistic about the future. How do I not read into this and also how can I not let his ways get to me and my ego?
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My 10 1/2 yr marriage ended in the summer after my husband realized " he needs to be on his own" This is after Ihad lost my mom, Grandmom had other personal issues and then our relationship fell apart. He "felt" he had to do this. He moves in a few weeks and around a month ago he heard I was dating and started contacting me sending me mixed messages about things (I had heard be was bothered/jealous by my dating but he has never said a word to me). Yesterday I went to my old house to say bye to my cats and get some things and when he brought me back to my place he was crying and said "I miss you a lot" but that is all he said. I guess if he missed me enough he would move mountains to try and get me back but he has not and in a way I want him to but don't know if I could go back to him after what he has done. I had not been in contact with him for months and then on his time he decides to get in touch. IS he playing games, just trying to be a good guy and clear his conscience before he moves?
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Yes I believe he is playing games, people don't leave people they care about.
Bill
AnswerHe is trying to play his cards right, people don't generally leave someone to "find themselves," usually they are running to someone else. Stand quietly by, the news will surface. It's hard not to feel hurt by all this, but remember it isn't something you did wrong, it is just something better off being over. Trust me, a year from now you'll see it.
Bill
