Rebuilding Connection in Marriage: When Love Fades & What To Do

Question
I've been married for 2 years now.We have been together for 7 years total.This is my fist marriage she is 23 and I'm 24 years old.We have two kids but  our relationship started to take a turn after are first child  it felt like my feelings started to change. Like not talking alot, not caring about what she does. We never go out, she wont let the kids spend the night with family so we can have time alone. I do not feel like I'm in love with my wife she feels and act like a friend and I'm confused it feels like we're putting up with each other to stay together for the kids. Also we don't even sleep in the same bed any more. When we have sex the light have to be off and when we do have sex she has to use a toy every time and its only twice a month we have sex .What should i do i don't know what to think of all this should i think about a divorce?


Answer
I sense that your (you and your wife) issue falls into the 'Communication / Relationship / Sexuality' types of difficulties and not into the 'Incompatibility' problem  

It is not possible however to provide a professional and better opinion without listening to both of you and asking a few verifying (diagnostic) questions.

It means 2-3 sessions in order to have some basic idea what is going on and to determine the type of counseling or guidance you both need.  


See my site and consider my phone / webcam services.

Regards,
 
Dr. Joseph Abraham

http://www.dr-joseph.com