Questionhey, i'm seventeen years old. I got a surgical abortion about 2 months ago.
While i was getting my abortion the doctors all were estranged about how far
along i had been and the amount of weight i had gaiend durring my
pregnancy, infact i only gained 5 pounds exspecting at most to be 16 weeks
pregnant. it was a shock to hear the day of my surgery i was really 20 weeks
pregnant and i passed out. I still was boney near my ribs but my surgeon
didnt think much of it, now after my surgery i lost around or over 17 pounds
in two-three months. I havent had sex or foreplay. I tested negative on my
pap smear and other stds testings and i got what i thought was a light period
exactly 30 days after my surgery. the doctors told me everything looked great
and he even used my as an example of a healthy procedure. well it's another
month and no period & i havent been this light weight wise in a long time. My
mom doesnt know that i did this all get pregnant and an abortion, let alone
have had sex. it was next to nearly impossible to pull this off and it was the
hardest thing to go through alone in my life (i tried to find help in my best
friend she turned it into a joke and i havent been the same twoards her). this
whole thing has been stressful, i got rejected at two clinics each on the day of
my scheduled surgery and they never explained to me why or where to go to.
ive often had nightmares since, liek vivid dreams but i herd that being
pregnant can do that but would my hormones still linger? I was also in the
middle of the hardest year of my life "school wise" (my junior year) and one of
the days i was supposed to get an abortion i had to change cause i was taking
an SAT and the other day my school assistant principal made my life hellwhen
she got me in trouble with my mom cause she thought i was being
suspicious and called home. my mom didnt let my out of my room for two
weeks, (her parenting styles are the reason why i chose not to tell her) i
wanted to tell my mom all along but when i approached her hypothetically
she left the house for three days disgusted with the idea and inferioriated
that i challenged her(i still dont know how i challanged her but whatever). i
dont know if this is normal, the nightmares go away when i speak to my
boyfriend or his family, the people who helped me with my whole situation. i
did well school wise im finding out now but the weight thing is scary and the
period thing is frustrating because i havent had sex in 5 months and it seems
like somethings wrong from this surgery. i dont regret getting it but the
wight ive lost is actually harder to hide than the weight i gaiined durring my
pregnancy. the period aspect of my situation worries me as well.
AnswerHi, Elaina,
The system won't let me send you a new message, at least not that I can figure out, so my old message is below, but I wanted to thank you for your VERY kind words about my message. I truly do care. You should feel free to eat chicken. It's wrong for someone to tell you not to eat what you need to stay healthy. Of the people I know who are vegetarians, a number of them are not normal weight. I even had family members who developed anorexia and were very badly underweight and had disturbances with their period. Good sources of the necessary fats to maintain hormones are really difficult to come by. You actually need to get a certain amount of cholesterol in your diet. If you don't, your body will manufacture it anyway. Some fats necessary for the body's basic hormones are really only available from animal sources. Good luck with your weight and everything! :) Feel free to ask a followup question.
Hi, Elaina,
I'm very glad you came.
The first thing I would need to ask is if you are eating less since your abortion. (And I think you're wise to stay away from activity that brought all this on.) It sounds like you might have post abortion stress syndrome. You can learn more about it here:
http://www.afterabortion.com/
Nightmares are a symptom of PASS. I once almost had an abortion, and I experienced horrible nightmares.
Also, if you are very thin, and not eating right, that could cause disruption of your period, so it could also be related. In order to make the hormones necessary to bring on your period, you have to have a certain amount of the right kind of fat in your diet. If you are a vegetarian or vegan, this could also aggravate the problem.
As for why you were rejected at two clinics, not all clinics will do late term abortions. Since you are thin, I'm surprised your mother didn't notice your pregnancy.
As for what your doctor said, I'd take that with a grain of salt. I went to a renowned sports surgeon once because there was something wrong with my knee. He took X-rays, and there was a resident in the room when he read them, and he said, "this is a textbook case of a perfect knee." I don't read X-rays, but I got to thinking about it, and I thought it looks like it's dislocated. So I contacted a chiropractor who works on limbs, and he looked at the X-rays and said, yes, it was dislocated. He gave me treatments to knock it back into place, and it has been fine since. But so much for the perfect whatever, eh?
It's a shame that your mother is being such a jerk. There would have been help out there for you, if people spread the word it's available. You didn't need to be alone. Now that you are experiencing difficulties, you can find counseling in your area. To find someone near you, go to a crisis pregnancy agency; they have post-abortion counseling. You can find one near you by going here: http://www.pregnancycenters.org/ You can also get involved in the discussion groups at afterabortion.com . I am also here, and you can talk to me any time.
Take care.
