Navigating Stepfamily Dynamics: Preparing for a Second Marriage with Adult Children

Question
My boyfriend and I are planning on getting married next year. This is a second marriage for both of us. He has a daughter, 15 yrs, that he has raised himself from a baby. I have twin girls, 19 yrs old. His daughter and I get along great and she is very excited to have a woman in her life. My girls however seem to be acting jealous. I understand the basics.. mine are both away at college and know I would be spending more time with his daughter etc., but they are almost acting like young children that dont want to share me with anyone. I know I have a year to reassure them I am and always will be their mom, reassure them noone can ever take their place. It's going to be a huge change for them since they have had me all to themselves since their dad and I got divorced. Any thoughts on what else I can do to make this transition for them go smoothly? Thanks !

Answer
Hi Karen~

First let me apologize for taking so long to answer your question.  My computer was messed up and I was unable to access my computer to answer my questions for over a week!

I think this it typical behavior for your children to be having.  I'm sure in time they will warm to the idea of your being married and having other ppl in their life besides just you.  It'll take some time and some getting used to.  Just try to be supportive and understanding as much as you can w/o over doing it and going way out of your way for them.