QuestionI have been married 18 years. My husband and I have divorced and remarried each other. We are both not happy with our marriage and I want out. The only reason I remarried him before was because of our two children, now 17 and 15. I feel like we are not right for each other. We have always fought with each other even before we were married the first time. The only thing we have in common is our kids. We are always in different parts of the house. We watch tv in two different rooms and he comes to bed after I am asleep. We just coexist. Am I wrong for wanting out? He wants to see if we can make it better but I feel that if it is not good after 18 years, why waste another 18? I know that we are not right for each other and that somewhere out there is the people we are supposed to be with. I need some advice in the worst way. I hate to put my kids through this again but I am miserable and becoming very depressed about this!!
AnswerHi Laurie~
I would urge you to seek some marriage counseling before you decided to separate and ultimately divorce. At least you can see if there is any hope of the marriage being saved. Perhaps you could work out your differences, it's not impossible to do that, even if you haven't gotten along for all these years.
Only then, after you've exhausted all means of saving the marriage, then should you consider a divorce. I don't think you're wrong for wanting out, after all you live in the marriage everyday. I just hate to see any marriage end, unless you absolutely have done everything within your power to salvage it. Some marriages can be worked out, and some can't.
It also isn't fair to the children to stay in an unhappy, unfulfilling marriage, just for their sake. Most of the time is just doesn't work out in the end. So I'm with you on that point.
Whatever decision you make it's not going to be an easy one. I hope I have answered your question for you. If you have any further questions please feel free to ask.
