Seeking Support After Rape and Unintended Pregnancy
QuestionI am 26, married with one son. My husband and I wanted another child when we found out that I couldnt not get pregnant due to the fact that i 'just didnt ovulate' as my dr told it. My periods have always been irregular-if i even had them. More often than not.. i didnt. <br />
To make a long story short, I was with my husband the weekend of march 31 then raped the following sunday which i believe was a sunday. My husband and I began the proceedings for charges immediately of course, then just weeks later appx may 5 found out i was six weeks pregnant. We dont talk about it cause we hope for the best, but im traumatised and scared to death of the possibilities. Though i know DNA is the only way to get most accurate answers.. i need something to help me rest at nite. This has consumed me.. and him and I dont talk about it. But i cant get it out of my head. Being that i dont know accurately my ovulation date snce i was so irregular, how could i base the credibility of a due date calculator... sigh. Can anyone help m clear my head. YOu know what i WANT to hear.. I want to hear that it could be my husbands. .. Anyone please volunteer any info that you think may or may not help. Im desperate.
AnswerFirst, let me say how sorry I am for what happened to you. You should really get some professional help to talk to a counselor. You and your husband MUST talk about what happened. He knows as well as you that it is possible that he may or may not be the father. Given that fact that you have such irregular periods, you won't know without a DNA test. You should decide now whether you and your husband can raise this baby. Will you be able to look at this baby and love it unconditionally knowing that it is an innocent baby, or will you look at the baby and see the face of your rapist? You have to do what is right for you. No one can tell you what is in your heart. This is why you really need to talk to someone professionally and not on the Internet. I wish you all the best. Talk to your husband and then to a counselor. There are all types of local support groups that you can get help from. Call the hospital near you for some numbers. Good luck.
Sincerely,
Suzette