Questionmy wife recently asked for space, she is 48 yrs old and we have been having a lot of issues with ou teenage son and lack of intimacy between us, now i am out of the house and completely destroyed help me
AnswerHi Tom~
I know it's going to be tough but you really should respect her request for some space and time apart. It might actually do you both some good. It'll do one of two things here. It'll eventually bring you closer together and you can work out your issues. Or two it'll break you further apart. But those are basically your only two options here really. You can hope for the best but prepare for the worst.
Tell her that you're willing to do whatever it takes to make the marriage work. And you'll be as supportive to her as you can during this rough time. Including your respecting her decision for a separation (even though you don't want one). All of these feelings that you're experiencing are totally normal too. It's going to take you a while to get used to this and to decide ultimately what you want out of this relationship.
Having a teenager to raise can really take a huge toll on a couples relationship and put it through a lot of tests. Teens just somehow know what buttons to push with their parents. I know I have a teen myself. They can be really tough to deal with at times.
I would also strongly encourage you to talk to her about some marriage counseling. At least this way you can go to a counselor and try to work out these problems. And see if these issues can be resolved and worked out. Just remember it's going to take some time before you see some real progress.
I think you need to sit down with your wife and have a serious heart to heart talk with her. She needs to know exactly how this is affecting you. And what you're willing and unwilling to put up with in this marriage. Perhaps you can both come up with some sort of compromise to work your differences out.
