Questioni desprately need your help. i am a student on a bsc computing course in first year. got married in summer 2005 in india. wife arrived in the UK in summer 2006. wife conned me into getting her a british passport, so that she can call her boyfriend from india to the UK. when i was informed of this, i refused to get her a permanent stay in the UK. wife left my maritiual house and moved in to her mothers house. she informed she now is pregnant. my life upside down. lost interest in my education. i go to university 4 days a week. but do not turn up to lectures/work shops/tutorials instead go into IT rooms and ebay and use internet all day/all week. assignments due in next week. have not even looked at it! shave once a week. wear the same cloths for two weeks. wash once a week. wedding bedroom in a pit. feeling like crying/commit suicide. i feel i have no life. what shall i do before its too late? i dont mix with my mum/dad/brothers/sisters. 24 years of age, where will i end up in 2 yrs?
24 years of age, and i think to myself what a LOSER i am. i blown my university grant on mobiles and 3 cars in 3 months. i ebay all day. buy items, don't send payment. my appearnce is not great. has soon as mum/dad are away from house, i run to my local chippy and eat junk food all day. go through 20 cups of tea a day. failed 2 university modules out of 4 so far, it is very unlikely thati will progress to the 2nd year of bsc computer course. buy local paper everyday, which i never read. just feel like running away from home as far away, that i never come contact with family again. what shall i do? university, behind course work, attendance very poor. please give me advice what shall i do?
i live in the uk, if it turns out that the child is mine do i have to give child support? how much do i pay weekly/monthly and for how long?
then again, i think that if i fail university, my parents may kick me out. my gawd, what year its going to be. what does the future have for me?
AnswerHi Temul,
The first thing I will tell you is that you need to find a church TODAY, and go in and talk to the pastor. You need the Lord, Temul. Your hope lives in Him. He can turn your life around, if you will allow Him to. He works supernaturally in the lives of those who love Him and believe His Word...
You have a choice whether or not to sit on your computer and blow all of your money. You need to decide!!! You can just as easily say no! You are NOT a loser...you are just lost right now and you can make changes TODAY so that the past will be behind you. MAKE A DECISION TO CHANGE. Don't allow the hurts of the past to define you and weave your path in life. If you find out that the child is yours, then a lawyer will be able to tell you about your financial obligations.
So say to yourself RIGHT NOW... "I am going to make changes in my life right now!" Then write down all of the things that you are going to change and replace them with positive actions and thoughts. Then instead of going to the local chippy, go to the local Christian church and find a pastor to talk to. There are some really great churches in the UK. Find a bible believing church, not one that is just "religious".
I know you have a lot of pain. But you have a choice infront of you...you can self-destruct, or you can pick yourself up and move on and make something of your life. God says it very simply in the Bible..."I set before you life or death...CHOOSE LIFE!!!" So it really is all about our choice... You can do it!!! Your life is valuable to God. He has a plan for your life. Ask Him what it is and then ask Him to help you walk the path that He has for you....
Stay in touch with me, okay??
Pastor Kim
