QuestionSo bascially, my problem is that my fiancee lives in Utah while I live in California. We only really see each other when he's here on trucking stuff, and i'm not busy modeling or just working [i'm a CNA], But lately it's been hard because so many diffrent things have come up with work and school and life, that we only get to talk late at night, and pretty soon, the late night phone calls will have to end, and then, well. I'm afraid where that's gonna leave our relationship. We've been planning on me moving into his house and stuff, but it's just hard to up & leave all my friends to be with him, in a place i've never even seen with people i'm not even sure i'm gonna like. How would you handle this kind of situation?
AnswerHi Kristin-Marie,
I'm more versed in areas of marriage, but I can tell you that a long distance relationship is very difficult at best, near impossible most of the time. For you to flourish in a relationship, there has to be some kind of contact other than the phone. If you love him sufficiently, and feel that he can replace the happiness that you derive from being where you are by his presence, then by all means, move in with him. You will though have to realize that he will still be trucking and away some of the time. It is a very difficult thing to just leave your home and start out elsewhere. Always a huge risk.
I'm wondering how you two got engaged in the first place, being so far away from each other?
I can only tell you that you can follow your heart, or ask him to make the sacrifice instead. Has this been an option? Ask him if he would move closer to you and if his answer is no, then ask yourself why you should do it?
I'm sure that if you both talk about it some more, you might come up with a solution that suits you both. Perhaps you could try being with him for a month or so to see how it works out before giving everything up? Or the other way around?
hope this helps,
Don.
