Understanding a Miscarriage at 7.5 Weeks: Doctor's Approach & Recovery

Question
Hello.

I had a miscarriage 3 weeks ago. My question is mainly in regards to how the OBGYN handled it.
I noticed spotting on a Thursday night and tried not to stress. The next day I made an appt for that same morning which was a friday. When I went in i was still spotting, or light bleeding.
The doctor did a vaginal u/s and showed me the heart beat and measured the baby. He printed pictures. Then he took me into his office and explained that this was normal and put me on light bed rest. Then he gave me some prenatal vitamin samples. Then told me to keep my next appt which was on the following Tuesday. I miscarried 12 hours later that night.
I am having a hard time understanding as to why he did not tell me I was going to miscarry. Seeing the healthy heart beat that morning is really upsetting me and I would like to know in your opinion, if there was a way he would have known. He didnt even tell me there was a chance to miscarry. He was very positive (which in this case is driving me nuts)

I feel very depressed and tired all the time. We had been trying to have a baby since early this year. I am having a hard time, as I am sure any woman who goes through this does. It seems so cruel that a mother has to go through this, especially a mother who has her life on track and wants to start her family with her husband.
I have so many emotions i'm not sure how to express.

Any information you can give about my doctor experience would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you!

Answer
Adriana,

I am so sorry to read about your miscarriage. I fully understand how hard it is to understand and accept when you go through this, but it isn't always this hard.

Bleeding in early pregnancy is not uncommon at all. The doctor you saw would have seen the heartbeat, and I think it would have been poor conduct if he offered you anything less than positive news. He probably should have told you that any bleeding carried some risks, but I dont think he could have foreseen what you were about to go through.

I hope you and your husband have a healthy pregnancy soon. If you continue to feel the way in which you do then it might be advisable to speak with your doctor. It does take different lengths of time for different women, but it will eventually stop feeling so raw.

Kind regards,

Christine