QuestionHi. Thanks for your response. You have got her personality down. She is very condescending, the know it all type.. And she is very fake. The few times she has been nice to me I have felt like thats fake too. And you are probably right that anything I say to her she is going to blow out of proportion. By the way, I dont even know how I am hurtful to her, unless doing things the way I want to with my son, and not always the way she thinks they should be done is hateful..Anyway After she sent me that second email about me having OCD and how its going to destroy everyone, I just told her that I am not going to sit there and email her back and forth. I just told her that maybe we shouldnt communicate anymore. I am still pretty upset from her emails. I need to just forget her and try to avoid her as much as humanly possible. Anyway, about the OCD. I wouldnt say I have OCD necessarily, because I know that it is a very serious disorder. I am able to function normally in my life. I tend to worry more than the average person I suppose, but I mainly worry when it comes to my son and his safety. I think that is just being a mother though. I have to say I worried when I kept finding pieces of glass at the in laws house. MIL doesnt clean much..She just lies and says she does. I just was thankful my son didnt pick up any pieces and swallow them. I dont think worrying about things like that is a bad case of OCD. Anyway, I dont know what my husband has to say about these emails. Hes out on a ship right now and his email isnt working right.. He probably wont say much. I dont think hed really stand up for me with his mom either. Im curious to see what he says though.. Anyway, thanks again. I really feel like I need some support right now so MIL doesnt drive me crazy!! Thanks so much!
Yes, I remember you! She sure makes it sound like the problem is you in her emails, doesn't she?! It sounds like she's a very condescending person. She wants it to seem like she's very nice, loving and concerned for your family and your welfare. I can't stand ppl that are so fake you can spot it a mile away. Anyway, there's probably nothing you can say or do at this point w/o her blowing it out of proprotion or making it out to be something it's not. Make sense?
Does she even know what OCD is? OCD is when a person does something over and over again. OCD controls a persons life and it can be very hard to deal with. A person with OCD, the OCD affects their life. They can't function regularly in life b/c they have to repeatedly do stuff such as wash their hands b/c they are deathy afraid of germs, or having to lock and unlock a door so many times or it affects their schedule and they can't get things done like normal ppl. That's what OCD, she shouldn't make light of that disorder b/c it's a very real problem for the ppl that have this condition.
Anyway, I got off rambling again. My point is there's probably nothing that you can say or do to make her change her opinion of you and the things you do in life (such as be worried over your son or being protective of your son). She's the one that has issues, whatever they are, being a nosey mother and always giving her opinion or sticking her nose into where it doesn't belong, b/c she has nothing better to do with her life.
I would just ignore her and not worry about her opinions anymore b/c if you do then it can make you upset and she's simply not worth it. If I were in your situation. I would just ignore her and be civil to her when I HAD to, other than that not converse with her much at all. Since almost all the things she has to say or do are nothing but be critical and hateful of you (and other ppl). Just face it, she has issues and you aren't going to be able to get along with her no matter how much you try. So I wouldn't even bother.
If you have any more questions or concerns, please feel free to ask.
AnswerHi Jennifer~
I think it's just a good idea to not even communicate with her, or give her the satisfaction of letting her affect you in any way. I would just continue to ignore her and only talk to her when you HAVE to, and be civil, not saying more than you need to to her.
After all she can't argue with someone that refuses to argue or even acknowledge her petty stupid behavior.
