QuestionQUESTION: Thanks pat,
I hope u enjoyed the hiking. I would be very greatful to you if you can find someone nearby to help us and we are worried more cz she's continously bleeding from past 10 days first 2-3 days were normal but afterwards it began heavily and she's feeling alot of weakness due to that and she's insisting for surgery if it would provide her relief. I understand your position and responsibility so i am very thankful that atleast you are writing us and giving sound advice.
ANSWER: Hello, Rish,
Regrettably, my browser kept crashing today, which is why I didn't write several hours earlier. I wanted to try to find the nearest organization to you, and I have been unable to do that. So I will give you a little extra information. These cities have organizations: Udamalpet, Mumbai, Tamilnadu, Bangalore, Chennai. As far as I know, none of them are anywhere close to you. I have the following information which may be helpful, phone numbers in particular. You can call them, and they may be able to help you find something or someone closer to you.
St Michael's Home
Address: Indiranagar
Bangalore 560 035
Phone: 542811
Care & Share Ministry
Address: PO Box 52, Padi
Chennai 600 050
Phone: 91-44-5507283
The Blue Valley Trust
Address: 4/2 Main Road, Ammapatti
Coimbatore District, Tamilnadu 642 205
Phone: 0091-4252-249400
Christo Development Trust
Address: 93/95 Rudrappanagar
Udumalpet 642 126
Phone: 91-4252-231012
You can also contact the nearest Catholic hospital, or any Christian church close to you, and they may also be able to help. There are several kinds of help she will need. The most obvious one is immediate medical attention.
Since she is experiencing the signs of loss of blood, she needs to get medical treatment immediately. Yes, I am sure the surgery will help, but I don't know if it will solve the problem. Please make sure she gets the cayenne regularly, as I suggested. Also, she should drink plenty of fluid (various kinds, not just water). The problem with assuming surgery will solve it is if the reason she's bleeding is because the drugs are causing it, rather than retained material, surgery won't change that. If it gets too bad, they will have to remove her uterus. But the surgery should be tried first. I know you love her a lot, and if you had known that abortion is so dangerous, you would have searched for a different answer. This is why we have to warn each other, because the public officials and media aren't going to tell the people. Some people are saying that's why abortion should be legal, but legal abortion isn't any safer.
The other concerns I have is that she is at much greater risk for breast cancer and emotional problems. When I have more time and my browser is behaving, I will give you some details on how she can possibly prevent breast cancer. Emotionally, it will be difficult for her. She may need counseling, and you will need to be especially sensitive to her. She can heal emotionally from this experience, but it won't happen quickly. I will be here for you so you can talk about this, as long as I have access to the internet.
I don't know how long we will get to talk, so thinking ahead, if they do have to remove her uterus, then if you two get married, you may want children. If so, then you should seriously consider adoption. We adopted two children, and one of our daughters also adopted two children. It's a wonderful choice. So please don't think you will have to remain childless if worse comes to worst. I realize this is all much more than you really wanted to think about, but I hope it will be helpful.
Please let me know how things go. You are in my prayers.
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QUESTION: Thanks pat,
your prayer really worked for us her bleeding is under control now and we went to a new dr. today and came to know the dr. who gave us mt prost kit actually played a game with us for money as when the new dr. did the ultrasound again didn't find anything and said everything is fine but he said to clearify it more u can go for a scan again after 15days but really thanksfull to you for supporting us and please guide us further what should we do to keep her healthy and a msg for every1 living in india that beware of some greedy dr. who runs their pvt. clinic as they just want to snatch your money at the cost of your life.
AnswerHello, Rish,
You are very, very welcome! I am so glad to know your girlfriend is doing better. I was very concerned.
The best thing you can do to keep your girlfriend healthy now is to take good care of her. Don't put her at risk for pregnancy until you are ready to accept the child. There are so many lies being told. One huge lie is that people should use "protection". This is a lie because protection doesn't work, in the long run. Maybe it will work once or twice, but people rarely use it just once or twice. The reason why having a baby before marriage isn't acceptable in India is because having sex before marriage isn't, either. A lot of men don't really understand a woman's sexuality, especially not to begin with. The same thing is true for women, regarding men's sexuality. When women have sex, we experience hormones that cause us to bond to our partner. The men don't have these hormones. This is one reason why a woman will tend to misinterpret what their partner really thinks. Men are "programmed" to have sex when they can, whenever they can persuade a woman. It is much easier for a man to walk away from a relationship than it is for a woman. You have made the commitment to love your girlfriend, and I greatly commend you for that. This isn't as common as you might think. But once a woman experiences these hormones, the commitment is almost guaranteed. The commitment puts the well being of the partner ahead of their own. Women tend to cherish their partners automatically, while men have to make the conscious decision to cherish their female partners. Cherishing means putting their needs and well being ahead of their own. Do the two of you have plans for the future? Give it some serious thought. If you intend to get married, you should go ahead and make plans. Seriously. It's not natural to wait a really long time to get married. That's one reason why sex becomes such a temptation.
Your girlfriend is now at greater risk of getting breast cancer as a result of the abortion. She should make sure and get Vitamin D3. While a woman's skin can make Vitamin D from sunlight, it's difficult to make sure she has enough. A woman with very light skin needs to expose a lot of skin to the sun during the summer for 15 minutes. A woman with darker skin needs to be in the sun longer. She also needs to be in the sun longer during the winter. India is nearer the equator than a lot of countries, and this helps. Once a woman (or man) has exposed her skin, she needs to refrain from washing until the skin absorbs the Vitamin D it has made. Usually this means not until the next day. The alternative is to take a supplement. It is generally recommended that a woman get 5000 units of Vitamin D3 a day. She will need to have her blood checked periodically to make sure she doesn't overdose. In addition, it is helpful if a woman takes Resveratrol. This comes from red grapes. Red wine is also a source. I don't know if you have access to these or not. You can get Resveratrol over the internet, if necessary. There are also other things she can take, but I'll have to do a little research. The turmeric in curry should also help.
Your girlfriend may have emotional issues because of all of this. Stay by her, comfort her, let her talk about it. The emotional consequences of abortion can be severe, so she really needs your support. A woman bonds with her baby in the first few days after conception. Having and breastfeeding children is part of our sexuality. She is aware on some level that she lost something very precious.
Did she try taking cayenne?
If you feel a strong desire to warn other people, by all means, do so. If you do, you will be telling the public you had sex and she had an abortion, so give this some careful thought. It's why people aren't warning each other now. But there is a serious need to warn people in India. There is very little activity of this type. People don't have a tendency to talk about it because of the fact it is unacceptable to have a child before marriage. The reason a lot of these so-called doctors do this is because they believe India has too many people. It certainly seems like it, because there are a lot of homeless people in India. In the past, India didn't produce enough food for all the people. But a couple of decades ago, India was producing enough food that it actually started exporting food. It's not the case that the people of India cannot eat well. It's the case that often political situations prevent people from getting access to enough food. A lot of people think that abortion should be used to reduce the population. But it turns out that much of the world isn't having enough children to replace the parents, and eventually, this will mean a serious loss of population. This will cause grave economic hardship, because eventually young people will have to care for the elderly, and there won't be enough to carry the burden well. In addition to all of this, there is a pharmaceutical company in India, Cipla, that sells the MT Prost kit, even over the counter. The instructions they give are deadly for pregnant women. I tried to email them, but they ignored me. They don't care. If a woman dies, that's one less to have children, and that helps cut the population. It's a real racket. I have read statistics that 20,000 women in India are dying from abortion every year. That's unacceptable. Young people need to be warned that sex has consequences, and women need to be warned to stay away from abortion, because it is deadly. The political push to legalize abortion completely has to stop, because legal abortion isn't any safer than illegal abortion. In fact, when abortion is legal, doctors become more careless. This means more deaths and disabilities, not fewer. As you can see, from lack of services, there is a very real need for this as well. You have only six organizations in India. We have more than 5000 in the United States. The need there is very great.
Let me know if you really want to do something about this, and I will give you some information on how you can go about it. Take care, both of you. I would love to hear from you occasionally, letting me know how things are going.
