QuestionI hope you are having a wonderful weekend!
If it's not too much trouble for you, I would like to ask a question.
A friend of mine has recently married a girl, about two months ago. He claims everything is perfect and complete bliss. This could easily be predicted, as no one usually gets married if they didn't feel this way. However, this friend of mine is only 20 years old. His new wife is 19.
Of course I wish the best, but I am very concerned.
One reason is because they only met and dated for 6 months. I know that sometimes time length doesn't matter, but this is a very short time to make a huge decision like that, especially at a young age. Also this girl has no job, no money, no work skills, nor has she ever had "a real career". She isn't going to college either, nor is he.
Well, my question is, in your opinion and from what statistics show, does this marriage sound promising?
I have some other facts that might be useful:
-He's in the military and possibly must relocate
-She was not a U.S. citizen before marriage
-His parents are divorced
-He did not tell anyone he was getting married until after the fact ( not even his parents: almost like he knew they'd be against it?)
-They've been married 2 months and they claim they are 1 and 1/2 months pregnant ( does that sound fishy?)
AnswerDear Claudia,
For starters, no relationship is 100% perfect. As you had mentioned the marriage is young and with that comes some positives. They are a bit more flexible in their direction in life, they have a child on the way which means they are more likely to work out any differences that may occur with the child in mind. Marriages take work and commitment. Perhaps they married because she found out she was pregnant or perhaps not. One can only do what they feel is right. If you would like to take some action towards improving their marriage, consider, as wedding gift, more first year anniversary, a gift certificate for a marriage enrichment class. www.smartmarriages.com has a huge listing to choose from. Or even as a gift to support the parents soon to be new arrival?
Marriages in the U.S have around a 50% chance of making it till "death till you part". Children of divorced parents do have a higher rate of divorce. Because military families move often and spent lengths of time apart they too have an increased chance of divorce.
