QuestionI am married happily(at least for a year) to my husband.
Me and my husband are both doctoral students. So is my ex boyfriend -X. Frankly, nerds with good scientific /academic accomplishments turn me on a lot.
I saw X in the news the other day. he has come up with a ground -breaking discovery in medicine . which is big in his field.
my husband is spending his 8th year and slow to get out. the big contrast recently stirred my up and I have always been attracted to someone who is academically excellent..( repeating myself) .sorry. I am worried about my marriage. Could you please give me some insights on how to be just content . ect. thanks. HAPPY THANKSGIVEING>>
AnswerHi Sue~
It's not uncommon to retain feelings for an old flame. It's okay to reflect back upon the good times you shared together. However, if it becomes disruptive to the point where it interferes with your daily functioning and is consuming you. Then that could become a problem and you really should be concerned about it. But if it's just that you saw your ex on the news and you were once again attracted to him. That's pretty normal. And there's not necessarily anything wrong with it. Especially when you're in a happy marriage and your content with the life you have together.
Just remember that he's your ex for a reason--whatever personal reasons the relationship didn't work out. And that you've moved on with your life and your happy. At this point you really don't have much to worry about. In fact it's healthy to feel this way and human nature. Of course, just don't act out on this feelings.
If you have any further questions please feel free to ask.
