Saving a Troubled Marriage: Rebuilding Love and Connection

Question
I've been married for 3 years, alls me and my wife do is fight, even about the littlest things.  I work allot of hours and sometimes I don't help out around the house like I should.  She thinks she wants a divorce and she doesn't know if she loves me.  How can I save my marriage?  How can I get the love back that we shared when we got married?

Answer
Well I think you both need to sit down together and make a list of likes and dislikes about the marriage. Then compare lists and begin to work on the problem items. Negotiate where necessary and come to a consensus on what will be accomplished. Set goals with regard to timing so that there isn't any open ended items and work towards your goals. Bickering and fighting is just posturing for control in new marriages. Once each has decided it isn't worth the fight to be right, things will improve.

Bill