Navigating Relationship Challenges: Jealousy and Communication with a Significant Other

Question
I am 21 and my wife is 16, i know really young, but love doesn't know age, but i really love her and do everything for her. I help her with her school her job buy her anything and everything and treat her with respect. But there is one problem, she doesn't do the same. At first i knew she was inlove with me and know i find myself wondering. I am a jealous guy, to say the least. I only ask her of one thing and that is no guys. do what she wants just no guys, but she still talks and hangs out with them all the time. I'm not sure if there is something going on on the side but she also doesn't really care about my feelings. I told her that it hurts and is painful to see things like that but she still dresses up all nice with make up and hair to go to school. Why wont she listen or understand that it is killing me inside? how do i get rid of this jealousy and and find out not only if there is someone else but why she does this to me. i don't hang out with girls or talk with them either.

Answer
Dear Jay,
I can not tell you how common this situation is for a newly married couples. It is usually the woman that tests the man and actually enjoys the fact that her man is jealous. Most of the time it is due to the woman's low self esteem, but in your case it may be due to her stages of growing. She may be trying to make you jealous so that she will feel more important or because she needs to be needed. The best way to handle this situation is to pretend that you do not have a care in the world. "Pretending" is going to be the most important action you can take. Do not show that you are jealous and actually provoke her to look nice and to hang out with her guy friends. This will make her even more trustworthy and she will not want to be with any other person. If you show your jealous side, you will definitely push her to be with another man. This will give her an excuse to go and flirt or even get closer to others. I have seen this time and time again; when one is extremely jealous, the other feels restraint and will show everything possible to break free and explore. If you give her freedom, she will not want to be with any other; all she will want to be with is you. Try letting up and actually behaving the opposite and I guarantee in the next few months she will draw closer to you. You may have to show her that you can have your friends as well by going out and looking nice. Show her that you do not always revolve around her. Give her your love and turn the tables around. Women can not resist completely confident men, so if you truly do not want to lose her, let her be free and concentrate on your own life and how to better yourself. There are several partners in a relationship that turn the tables and their relationship will drastically turn for the better. I know that you love her deeply, but if you really want to keep her, give her a mile and she will give you double.
Take care and good luck!
Kiya