Dealing with Infidelity: Support & Options When Facing Cheating

Question
i just fund out that my husband is cheating on me, second time /that i know, with different person, i used to call my friend/ We have three kids and I'm 7 months pregnant. how can i get thru it, i know i should live him. i have no family here.

Answer
Hi Mika~

You have two options here.  A) You can put up with it and continue to stay with him.  Or B) You decide that you're not going to sit back and put up with his cheating ways.  I can totally understand that you're hesitant b/c you don't have family there.  But you don't have to stand for this and just decide to settle with his cheating.  What he's doing is rude, disrespectful and unacceptable to do to you (and the children too).  You have to do whatever it takes to get out of this unhealthy situation.  If that means you try to save some money back and move back where your family can help you and put you and the children up for a while, then by all means do so.  

It hurts and it's very devastating when a spouse cheats on you.  It's the ultimate betrayal in a marriage.  It makes you lose every ounce of trust and even respect that you once had for him.  You and the children don't deserve to be treated in this manner.  But you have to decide what you're willing and unwilling to put up with in this marriage.  Starting all over after a divorce isn't easy, but sometimes it's a necessary evil.  And you have to do what you have to do to ensure the happiness and well-being of yourself and family.  Whatever decision you make isn't going to be an easy one.  If you have any further questions please feel free to ask.