Navigating Marital Abuse & Considering Separation: A Guide

Question
my husband and i have been having problems since we got married we have only been married a year. I am miserable and i want out he puts me through verbal, mental and emotional abuse. He has very bad anger problems and he getting help but i cant go through this another year. There is a child she is six months and i don't want her to grow up around us fighting all the time. He continually says he trusts me and he still goes through my cell phone when i am not in the room and checks my e mails. Hes violent, he gets right in my face and screams and i am afraid he going to get physical i don't know what to do my heart says leave.

Answer
Hi Krystyle~

He's an abuser, but you already know that.  For your own sake and the sake of your precious baby you need to get out and now.  Don't contemplate on staying with him one moment longer.  You have every right to be worried about your safety and the well-being of both you and your child.  He can't be trusted when he'll get right up into your face and verbally assault you.  Next thing it'll turn physical and that's a very real and scary possiblity you must think about.  It's not worth staying there one second longer.  Get out now while you can to be safe.  Go stay with family or friends if at all possible.  It only takes a split second or something in him to break and then the damage is done and he's physically hurt you or your child.  And a baby that age is very susceptable to being hurt very easily.  You just can't take that chance and risk it.  

Go with your heart and listen to your gut insticts.  After all your instincts are there for a reason, that is to tell you when something's not quite right.  So always, always trust it.  If he'll verbally abuse you, he will eventually do that to your child, it's only a matter of time.  And you can't have that.  Get out ASAP, don't wait until it's too late.  If you think he'll try to prevent you from leaving him.  Do it when he's not there, like when he's at work, etc.  Also get a support system in place of ppl that will support you through this rough time, such as family and friends to help you.  That can make a world of difference in how soon you leave him.  Protect yourself and your child at all costs.