QuestionI have been married for 5 years and I have two children. I just recently found out that my husband has been cheating with my ex best friend and she is now pregnant. I was pregnant with my second child when he was cheating. I am having some huge issues with this whole deal. I am wanting some help sorting through all of this because at this point I'm not sure what exactly I want to do from here. I love my husband and I don't want to hurt my children but at the same time I don't want to hurt anymore either. I don't even know if this is fixable. Can you give me some advice on where I should go from here? Everyday I have mixed emotions and feelings.
AnswerHi Jana:
First, I am so sorry for the pain you are feeling. The mixed emotions and feelings you are going through are absolutely normal.
You SHOULD have "huge issues" with this. Infidelity is a huge issue. But, it is fixable.
I need to know what your husband says. Is he remorseful? Does he want to be with you and his children? Is the ex-girlfriend pregnant with HIS child or someone elses?
For immediate advice - for this to be fixable, here is what has to happen RIGHT NOW - your husband must sever ALL contact with the other woman. Absent parental responsibility (if the child is his), he must immediately, completely, and permanently end ALL contact. No phone calls, no emails, NOTHING.
Let me know your response to my above questions and you and I can work together to help you deal with this. I know it hurts. I know there are days when you just want to throw it all away and give up. You are human - what kind of person would you be if you did not feel emotional pain? But I promise you that you will get past this, you will laugh again, you will have fun, you will have great days ahead you.
Let's get started!
