Question Hi I am a bit confused and no longer am sure what one would define as Adultery I have very high moral standards and as a parent do not allow much public television in my home due to the fact it is disgracful, I am a firm beleiver if you want to learn how to do anything be it related to sex murder drugs etc just turn on the television. I am somewhat upset with my husband as he knows how i feel about ponography be it light heavy to even partically clad bodies on public television, to me for him to sit and watch some female shaking her almost naked rear on the screen is unacceptable and for him to actually sit and watch it makes me feel somewhat betrayed and in a sense cheated on also, am i wrong? where does one draw the line to things like this? Would it be differnet for myself to wave my half clad rear in some other mans face or to walk around in the public revealing my privates to other men what makes the latter wrong and not the former ? and what would make the latter not wrong to veiw just because it is on television
AnswerHi Susan~
The problem here is that the world and society has become desensitized to nudity, porn, anything suggestive on tv, in the movies, even to ones own personal actions in public. It really is a disgrace and pretty disgusting to see that not many ppl have any morals in this day and age. It's rather sad and pathetic if you ask me. But it's unfortunately become common place and therefore (as society sees it) acceptable to do.
Now to answer your questions.
Are you wrong? No, absolutely not. You have and adhere to your particular personal morals and what you believe is right to do in life, and you display that in how you act and portray yourself and what you're moral standards are according to your beliefs, etc. But that doesn't mean that everyone will respect them or even share the same belief system and moral values that you have. And that's okay too, b/c what's right for someone isn't always right for someone else. Everyone makes poor choices and bad actions in life, to which one day they will all be held accountable for. That also doesn't mean you can't hold your children and your husband and not expect them to respect your thoughts, wishes, desires and decisions. And honestly you should expect him/them to abide by your strong beliefs, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.
Where does one draw the line to things like this/these?
Well, again you have to give your husband rules and that he respect your wishes in the household and how you live your lives. As your husband and life partner, he should be willing to go along with you and support your decisions. So that you can do this together as couple working together, not against each other. Only you can make the decision as to what you're willing and unwilling to put up with in this marriage from him.
Would it be different for you to wave your half naked rear in some man's face, etc?
No, of course it wouldn't be right. Two wrongs don't make a right. As the old saying goes. You have to show him that you're not willing to accept him watching these shows. If it's wrong for the children to do and it's a house rule that they can't watch provocative things, half naked ppl on tv, etc then it's not okay for your husband to do it in his own him in the family home anywhere. He's disrespecting your wishes by watching this and doesn't care what message this send to you or the children when he does watch this. He's only thinking of himself and being very selfish and self-centered by doing this type of thing. So for you to stoop to his level only shows him that you're lowering your standards and morals and being like him, and at this point he doesn't care or perhaps even think it's wrong or a big deal at all. Which is totally opposite of what you're doing right now.
What would make the latter not wrong to view just b/c it's on television?
If viewing this type of programming goes against everything you believe and stand for. Then it's contradicting everything that you preach and go against if you were to watch it and think it's acceptable for your husband to do this. It's called a double-standard. Just like saying to the children "Do as I say, not as I do." You're leading by example and showing the children the things that are right and wrong in life, according to your own thoughts, feelings and opinions on things that go on around you. You're raising them to be against this very type of thing. So if you go and watch something like this on tv, it's telling them one thing and doing another, the very opposite of everything you oppose if you watch it. And therefore that's why it's wrong in my very personal opinion and view on this. So the answer to your question is nothing. It would be wrong to do the latter and watch it on tv. You can't make something right in any way, shape or form if your against it. And nothing or no explanation can justify what your standards are by changing and making an exception to the fact, if you do the direct opposite of it. Does that make any sense whatsoever? See what I mean here?
