QuestionI'm 25, my husband's 27 and we've been married for 4 months, together for 5 years prior to marriage, lived together for 2 years during our engagement.
He had his third heart attack this year.
He had 4 heart attacks last year, and 3 this year, and I don't understand why - he's active, likes going the gym and eats healthily, and practises what he preaches with regard to this.
It can't be his diet that's a factor.
Also, his job's not stressful, so stress isn't an issue.
I can't work out why he's had this many heart attacks and managed to survive - it's a mystery to me.
Bizarrely, every time he's had a heart attack, his sex drive has shot up a lot, and it's worrying me.
I have tried to talk to him whilst he's been in hospital about it but he feels embarrassed talking about it.
The doctors there are stumped by this, and our GP is as well (we actually went together to the GP last year to discuss this).
I just don't understand how he's managing to live to tell the tale... why is this?
How will this affect our marriage? I've currently been getting specialist counselling to deal with this.
Any advice is appreciated, I just can't cope with it and feel more like his carer than his wife/lover.
AnswerHi Marie~
If you've ever watched programs that have to do with health. I watch them a lot. And one of the things that you should have checked out are his arteries and see if they are clogged. If his arteries are 90% clogged, etc then he's going to be at very high risk for another heart attack and this could explain his health condition too. The only way to tell if it's his arteries that are clogged is by doing a dye test in the veins, it can be an invasive procedure, but it will show what's going on inside his body clearly (if this is the problem at hand and indeed what's causing all these health issues). It's worth it to get it checked out by your doctor. You might have to go to a cardio (heart) specialist though.
I can see how this is affecting you, him and most importantly the marriage. It's a pretty stressful thing for everyone to go through, when you don't know what's really causing this. Being patient and working together and being as supportive to each other as much as you can will be your biggest ally in dealing with all this. Stay with the counseling too, over time it can be a tremendous help to you and even your husband. I hope this helps you some or at least give you somewhere to start. Hang in there!
