QuestionQUESTION: thank you so much for taking the time to read and answer my question,
with that said here it goes.
i recently had an abortion on june 5th. it was a surgical suction aspiration. they put my on doxycycline (the antibiotic) and i started taking ya birth control on june 6th. well tuesday the sixteenth, my boyfriend and i had unprotected sex and he finished inside me. same for that friday the 19th. well today is the 27th and im expecting my period on the 39th.. is it possible i could be pregnant again? i took a test a few days ago and it was positive but thats probably from the previous pregnancy. my body temp is higher than normal. and then yesterday i had light brown spotting that stopped today. im not sure if it could be implantation spotting? my bleeding from the abortion stopped the week after i had it done. please help me as i am going out of my mind with worry!
ANSWER: Hi, kaitlyn,
To begin with, it doesn't matter if your boyfriend finishes inside you. If he goes inside you, you are at risk for pregnancy. It can even happen if he leaves any fluid near the opening, although it's rare. Also, I'm glad you know that the sex was unprotected, because condoms don't work.
I assume you meant you expect your period on the 29th, not the 39th. :) But since you were taking birth control, it may be that it was sufficient. You didn't say how much higher your temperature was. I don't know the reason for spotting, either, but that's a common aftermath of abortion.
I can't tell you over the internet what is going on specifically with you, and neither can anyone else. Please see a doctor. As for going out of your mind with worry, the best antidote to that is to stop having intercourse. There are other ways to show affection (but any penetration into your body anywhere can cause a nasty disease). It seems that you have figured out that having sex isn't worth the worry it causes. Your boyfriend should be protecting you, not taking advantage of you. You should have a talk with him. If he isn't willing to protect you, then you deserve someone better.
Please go to a doctor, and let me know what you find out.
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QUESTION: hi,
thank you so much for your answer.
and actually im pretty sure i got my period today. so i didnt need to be worried. :) well i guess i did but i was worried for nothing.
my boyfriend and i have been together for a few years, and i promise he was not taking advantage of me. i was the one who told him i was ready to have sex. :)
yes i meant the 29th but i guess it came early. and my temp is still higher than normal. im not sure what to think. its usually around 98.6 and for the past 4 days its been anywhere from 99.2 - 99.6.... hmm.. im not sure. any thoughts?
AnswerHi, Kaitlyn,
You're welcome.
The only thing I can tell you about your deciding to have sex is that under the circumstances, you are taking an unnecessary risk, and he's letting you do it.
It doesn't sound like your temp is all that high, and as long as it doesn't go any higher, that's good. But you should be worried about the long term effects of abortion.
I will give you some tips of things to watch out for. First, be careful because you might experience tubal pregnancy. Surgical abortion causes scarring in the uterus. The result is that sometimes there will be a scar over the opening to the Fallopian tube, and while sperm can get in, a zygote cannot get out. If you become pregnant and you start to feel pain, ESPECIALLY if the pain abruptly stops, see a doctor immediately! When the pain stops, that is a genuine emergency and surgery will be required. Next, please be aware that you may have difficulty carrying a pregnancy to term. Surgical abortion is done by forcing the cervix open. The cervix is tightly closed, and this forcing causes micro-tears. The cervix cannot hold the weight of a full term baby. The result will either be miscarriage or a very premature baby. Prematurity this early is a leading cause of cerebral palsy, epilepsy, and autism in the baby. When you become pregnant, tell your doctor you had a surgical abortion, and ask him to tell you what to watch for that labor is trying to start to happen. He can fasten your cervix shut to prevent this. When it comes time for the birth, you may learn that because of the scarring, the baby couldn't fasten in a good place in the uterus and may have fastened too close to the cervix. If serious enough, this results in placenta previa, and labor can cause the placenta to rip loose, resulting in hemorrhage. The doctor will have to do a Caesarian section, because this is a life-threatening problem. A prior abortion can also cause prolonged labor, and that may also make a Caesarian section necessary. Finally, be especially vigilant of the possibility of getting breast cancer. This will usually occur when a woman is in her 40's, but can happen even in a woman's 20's. This is especially likely if this was the woman's first pregnancy, or her childbearing is delayed significantly. The form of breast cancer is particularly virulent and kills 1/4 of its victims. If you have a history of breast cancer in your family, this is a virtual certainty. I recommend against getting mammograms; there are better ways to detect breast cancer. You can get information about this on the internet. We will hope and pray that none of these things happen to you. Just be vigilant.
Take care of yourself, and don't take any more chances! You are precious, and you deserve better.
