QuestionQUESTION: I had an Abortion performed on June 4th i stayed awake for this. I was bleeding a lot after...i was in so much pain one day when i checked my pad chunks of blood were slipping out of me maybe a handful or more..is this normal??...i heard breast milk is normal but how long will it last?.....my husband did not know i had this done. I usual take birth control pills but stopped because i was pregnant.i haven't started back on them as yet. While playing around he entered me just all the way in once and never reentered but i am worried about being pregnant again is this possible? He usual has a lot of precum and that's what i am so worried about.One last question i stopped bleeding for a about a week but now i am starting up again is this okay?
ANSWER: Hello, Ladonna,
Abortions are dangerous and they cause a major disruption in a woman's body. It cannot be said that anything that happens afterwards is "normal".
This sounds abnormal enough that I think you should see a doctor. Don't go to whoever provided the abortion. Find someone else.
Yes, precum can get a woman pregnant.
Why do you want an abortion, given that you are married? It is perfectly acceptable to have a baby when you're married. I'm guessing your husband would not want you to have an abortion. If he has any sense, he won't want you to take this chance. Abortion can kill you or render you seriously disabled. Sooner or later he will probably find out. Then what? Having an abortion to keep the fact you are pregnant from someone is never a good idea. What if he ended up having to go down and identify your body? What if you suffered serious consequences?
Find an organization that will help you with the problems you are facing. They can recommend a doctor. They can also give you some counseling.
You can find one by going here:
http://pregnancycenters.org/
You didn't say how far along you were. Also, evidently you are not familiar with how to tell when you are fertile. You can learn to do this, and this web site will give you some information:
http://fertilityuk.org/
You have to chart faithfully, and you can't be using any kind of hormones.
Please take care of yourself! Go to a decent doctor and let him help you. Let me know how you do.
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QUESTION: Thank you for your advice...i was about 11 weeks..i choose not to tell my husband because i was taking a lot of pain medication and did not want to risk having an unhealthy baby otherwise he would have supported me 100% as always. Sadly, i did not think of those possible outcomes. I choose to hide it in regards to his feelings. I am unable to tell when i am fertile because my periods are irregular.I went to a doctor and i am fine. Once again thank you for your concern.
AnswerHi, Ladonna,
Thank you for getting back in touch. It is unfortunate that so many women don't know about the alternatives. Drug companies exaggerate the risks of damage to unborn babies because they don't want to get sued. Some doctors are more knowledgeable, and can tell you that damage is unlikely. As for your periods being irregular, it doesn't matter. Learning to tell when you are fertile still works. The signs of fertility are still there. So I do encourage you to learn how to tell. If you should become pregnant again, go to the link for pregnancy centers, and find a doctor who won't sell you short. There may still be possibilities, but generally speaking, if you have been taking the painkillers all along, miscarriage is probably more likely than a defect. In any case, there are people who are eager to adopt disabled children, so that is always an option. Also, please be aware that all mothers worry about their babies being normal, so this is not unique to you, although you may feel, perhaps rightly so, that the risk is greater in your case. Take care, and feel free to come back and talk to me any time.
