QuestionHi it's Navi again.
I managed to build up the courage to speak to my parents about this matter, who are both trained physicians. They gave me very different information to that which I received from you and I'm really confused. They've been telling me that it really is safe and there's nothing to worry about. I'm actually a little bit baffled with some of your statistics. From my statistics lectures I'm sure that a 400% increase means that 4 in 1 people will develop cancer. But surely as not everyone who has an abortion develops cancer this statistic is wrong or maybe I just don't understand it. Also they've both assured me that all the instruments will be thoroughly sterilised, why wouldnt they be, and that the procedure will be done by a doctor that they both know and recommend. Also my grandmother had breast cancer and is still very much alive, whilst she was recieving treatment the doctors never mentioned the statistic that 1/4 of women die from breast cancer,again I am so confused. I was also taught in Biochemistry that there is in fact a vaccine for breast cancer which protects against around 90% of the different forms. Surely if my girlfriend had this vaccine she would be able to escape from breast cancer. Also I'm really confused about the statistic about '3 1/2 times the likelihood of dying a violent death during the year following, including from accident, drug overdose, and homicide'. By definition isn't an accident uncorrelated to anything else? And I don't really understand how having an abortion means it is more likely that she will be murdered.
I'm really confused :s. My parents are advising me to go through with the abortion but you're highlighting all these risks. Why would my parents lie to me? I'm so confused and don't know who to listen to. Please help
AnswerHi, Navi,
Your parents aren't lying to you. They don't have the information. Most people have no idea how dangerous abortion really is. And in fact, this sounds like a potentially coercive situation. Your girlfriend has a right to understand all her options thoroughly. That's one reason why she needs to go talk to the folks at your local organization.
http://www.optionline.org/
The people who are in charge of informing the public don't WANT you and your loved ones to know how dangerous abortion is.
Let me explain to you about the figures concerning an increase. Suppose, for example, that normally 1 out of 100 people will contract a certain disease. The woman has an abortion. The increase in her chances is 400%. Now she has a 5 out of 100 chance of getting it. Not everyone will get cancer. But why take such a horrible risk? It's not necessary. Subjecting a healthy woman with a healthy pregnancy to that kind of risk is medically UNETHICAL. The first principle of medicine is "Primum non nocere", which means, "First do no harm". Doctors are supposed to weigh the dangers of acting against the dangers of not acting. Normally, when doctors treat, and conduct an ethical medical practice, there will be dangers of not acting. They can weigh those against the dangers of acting. With a healthy woman and a healthy pregnancy, there are NO dangers from not acting.
One study that came out of Britain said that the more experienced abortionists had the most complications. People who kill routinely get careless. Don't trust that they will sterilize instruments properly. We have found that this is RARELY the case. Killing tiny innocent children brutalizes the abortionist. Many resent their clients, and will be careless just because they don't really CARE about the client. It's just a way to make money, or cut population growth, or whatever their goal is.
There are different kinds of breast cancer. The kind that a woman gets after abortion is the most virulent kind, called "Triple Negative". Your grandmother isn't a good example, because if 1/4 die from breast cancer, then 3/4 live, and she is obviously among them. Furthermore, don't trust a vaccine against breast cancer. Vaccines aren't all they're cracked up to be. A lot of times they just plain don't work. And most of them contain poisonous substances, either as preservatives (such as thimerasol, a form of mercury) or as adjuvants. They don't convey true immunity.
An accident can result, for example, if a woman has an abortion, and then because of the emotional anguish she is suffering, she starts to abuse alcohol. She then drives. Her skills are impaired and she hits a tree. Accidental death, originally caused by abortion.
Your parents have no right to expect your girlfriend to undergo this kind of risk, because SHE is the one who will suffer the consequences. Your girlfriend is carrying your baby, the grandchild of your parents. That baby needs your protection.
The bottom line is that abortion is totally unnatural. It is a VIOLENT invasion of a woman's body. It ALWAYS causes harm. It totally goes against our nature to do something like this. We ALWAYS pay a price. I have a pretty good idea of what that's like, because I had some of those consequences myself, and I didn't even go through with an abortion. Just THINKING about it sent me into an emotional tailspin for months. If you want specifics about WHY abortion causes a particular medical problem, let me know. I'll explain it. If you want links to medical papers or something of that nature, let me know.
Before doing anything at all, persuade your girlfriend to go talk to the folks with the organization in your area. Then she will have the information she deserves before taking this irreversible step. Remember, abortion is forever. You can't take it back. And even though you might be OK with an abortion now, in the long run, especially once the panic goes away, you may also regret it very much, as will she. Most women can't even talk about what is a "silent grief". But abortion turns the world upside down for most women, and in your case, it's not even "necessary" because like I said, she CAN finish her education, and so can you. I won't say it's not a challenge. It will be. But it's so worth it, and ultimately, her future health will be so much better. Please don't let her hurt herself this way. Protect her as well.
I hope this helps.
