QuestionQUESTION: i know this girl who had an abortion(so she said she had one) but anyways now she's say she was pg with twins. now if you have an abortion wouldnt it kill both babies?? or could she of gotten pg again?? not to mention she seems to go to the docs alot more than i seem to ever of gone. i'm confused.
Thanks
ANSWER: If she was pregnant with twins and had an abortion, that means both the fetuses were aborted. It would still mean she had only one abortion because it was only one procedure. Abortions are not counted by the number of fetuses aborted, but by the number of successful procedures you undergo.
It's impossible to get pregnant again when you're already pregnant, or while having an abortion, or even until two weeks after an abortion. After two weeks, if you have unprotected sex, then it's possible to get pregnant again.
A person undergoing an abortion will have to visit the clinic at least three times in 3 weeks, sometimes more. The first time there is a physical exam and pregnancy test, the second time is the actual procedure, and the third time is a follow-up appointment to check that everything went OK, and that the patient is healthy. If for some reason the abortion fails (I had a failed medical abortion because the meds didn't work on me), or if there are complications later, the patient may need to go to the clinic many more times. I had to go 6 times in just one month.
All these visits to the clinic are very stressful. Having an abortion is also a very emotional and stressful experience. It's good to see that you are so concerned about your friend - please support her in this difficult time as much as you can. She may not ask you outright, but she needs all the help and support she can get.
One thing you can do for her is not pry or ask too many questions about the abortion. Your friend probably wants to put the episode behind her and move on with her life, and you can help her get involved in activities she liked before she had the abortion. Also, try not to say that she has "killed babies"; that is a very emotionally loaded term. Even if you are against abortion, and think it is immoral, try to respect the fact that your friend disagrees with you, and is capable of making her own choices. She is not automatically a bad person for having an abortion. Let her know that you won't make her feel bad or uncomfortable for having the abortion.
Come back here if you have any more questions. Take care!
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QUESTION: im understanding but not understanding. then if she had twins and she had an abortion that means they both should of been aborted correct?? then why is she still pg?? could if be she never went and she's just making lies and she really didnt have twins?? Im really confused..
AnswerShe isn't still pregnant, unless her abortion was incomplete for some reason. In that case, maybe both or just one of the fetuses survived, and that may be why she is still pregnant.
I can't say whether she's making this all up, but in any case, this is a very private matter to her. My advice to you is to try not to pry, and respect her need to keep some things to herself. I know it's hard, and you're really curious - but you know what? You can ask me all the questions you have about pregnancy and abortions, and I'll tell you all I know so you'll have some answers to your questions at least!
Take care.
