QuestionI am married to my husband 13 years now. We have 2 children 8,11.We fight a lot and he puts all his relatives, even distant ones before me. He says that he is staying in this relationship just for the kids(every time we fight. When we are in good terms, he claims that he still loves me. I don't believe him, I feel used only. He is very abusive verbally and shows signs of possible physical abuse too. We recently bought a beautiful home and the kids are happy here. The home is in his name only and he threatens to kick me out.I put a lot of my money in this new home deal, trusting him. What are my options?
AnswerHello Corina: If you live in most states in the United States, if the house was purchased after you were married, it becomes community property. Meaning you are entitled to half whether your name is on the deed or not.
Verbal abuse is bad - physical abuse is worse and illegal. If he ever crosses the line to physical, do NOT let it go. Keep yourself and your kids safe first and foremost.
Having said that, what the two of you need to do is solidify your marriage which will help solve some of the other issues you are dealing with (especially relatives).
Please find a local marriage counselor. Save this marriage and you will find it to be more fulfilling and filled with love than you ever imagined. There are some very specific things a counselor will have you do that will help reconstruct your relationship.
Keep your chin up and please keep me posted.
David
