Post-Abortion Care: What to Avoid & When to Resume Intimacy

Question
QUESTION: My wife just had an abortion. The doctor said us not to have any sexual intercourse for at least 6 months. I want to know is it allowed if i kiss my wife on lips and breast and do some forplay with her vagina. please give some more clearance on this one.

Thanks

ANSWER: Hello, Ravi,

Abortion is dangerous, and you really need to protect your wife from it. Abortion can kill her or harm your future children. That said, I'm a little surprised the doctor said six MONTHS. Usually they tell women no intercourse for six weeks. Check with him again and see if you understood him correctly.

You can do all of the things you are telling, provided your fingers are dry and you don't penetrate her vagina with them. The concern is infection, and possible pregnancy too soon after the abortion.

Ask the doctor again, just so you have a clear idea of what he is recommending you do. And please protect your wife from abortion in the future. Take care.

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QUESTION: Thanks.  i asked doctor at lest for 10 times. It is correct that we should not try to keep pregnancy for 6 months at least. intercourse is not allowed.
 Mouth sex is allowed? Can she take mine in her mouth????

Answer
Hello, Ravi,

I don't understand why the doctor says six months. You can ask another doctor. That's called a "second opinion". You won't necessarily want to tell the doctor she has that you have done this. If the doctor she has is the one who did the abortion, I wouldn't trust him anyway. Abortion is medically unethical, and if he'd do that to your wife, then there is no telling what else he would do to her.

Taking you into her mouth would be dangerous for her. It could cause her to develop cancer of the mouth and throat, and could cause other diseases as well. If my husband asked me to do that, I would seek a divorce. It's disgusting. It's not what the mouth is designed for. Your wife may not feel she can seek a divorce, and she may not feel she can say No to you, but it could very well affect her attitude toward you. In a word, don't ask.

Sex is supposed to help a married couple bond with each other. But it is also for producing children. Perhaps your view of sex is more directed at pleasure and less at bonding and her well being. Please think about this. Take care of her and protect her. She is precious and she deserves your protection and nurture.