QuestionQUESTION: Hello,
I am really confused about what I should think about what is going on with me... I'll start from the top and explain what happened and see what you can tell me to make me a little more relaxed about this whole situation.
Three months ago I had a very early miscarriage. I miscarried before I was supposed to have my period for that month. The bleeding was pretty heavy for about a week until it finally tapered off over the next week and stopped. I ended up going to the doctor halfway through because I was starting to get light headed and passed out a couple times from the blood loss. The doctor told me to drink lots of water, take iron supplements, and gave me antibiotics to take.
After the bleeding stopped I was relieved and thought everything was alright. That was until about a week after the bleeding stopped clumps of smelly white tissue started to get discharge from my vagina. I just figured this was "left-overs" and wasn't a big issue. I waited patiently and my period came right on time. Exactly 28 days after the MC started.
After I got my period that month the discharge of white tissue was gone and everything seemed alright. That was until about 12 days after I got my period a condom broke on us and I had to take Plan B. I took the plan B but ever since I took the plan B I have been getting abdominal pains right above my hipbone and the left side. The pain isn't constant it comes and goes but when it comes it feels as though someone is stabbing me with a knife. At the same time I get a pain in my chest at the very bottom of my sternum.
I figured this was just a side-affect of the plan-B but I don't know anymore because the pain hasn't gone away since I got my period. This pain seems to come and go. It hasn't gotten worse and hasn't really gotten better. I haven't stopped having sex and when my boyfriend puts it in to far it makes the pain get worse.
I'm seventeen and although I am above the age of consent, I still live with my parents and don't want them to find out that I'm sexually active unless I have to. So I would like some sort of grounding to whats going on and whether or not I need to go to the Doctor or whether I should be concerned...
ANSWER: Jamie,
I am not medically qualified to answer this question. If you are experiencing prolonged pain then I would consider going to your doctors. It is important to make sure the MC was complete, as any part left inside you can cause infection, and pain. It is unusual for the 'plan B' pill to cause side effects such as these, although they are hormone based and can react different to everyone. It is possible you are allergic to them, but again this would have to be confirmed by a doctor. I really am only pulling at ideas, I have no medical training. As you have had a MC and a split condom, it is also possible you have contracted a STI as on at least 2 occassions you have had unprotected sex.
My concern is your not wanting to tell your parents. Do you not have a good relationship with them? If there is no real reason not to tell them, then I really would consider discussing with them as they may be able to help. You are passed the legal age of consent, therefore if you feel mature enough to save sexual relations then you should really try and talk to your parents it is the mature thing to do. I am sure they will much prefer your honesty then deception.
I hope you get the all clear, and that you are feeling better soon. I also hope that you are able to talk with your parents.
Kind regards,
Christine
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QUESTION: STI's are out of the question. Me and my boyfriend have both been together since the beginning of high school and are the only ones we have had sexual relations with.
Is it possible to have a period while still having a ectopic pregnancy? I really wouldn't think so...
It's not that I can't talk to my parents about it. I would just prefer not. I'm sure you fooled around with your boyfriend when you were younger and it's just not a topic you really want to talk to your parents about. Especially when they are over-protective to begin with.
NYS Law allows patient-doctor confidentiality excluding parents from selected medical records regarding sexually related treatments for anybody over the age of 13 if worse comes to worse...
AnswerJamie,
If the pain has persisted I would have yourself checked. You are very right in that you are old enough for the doctor not to contact your parents and your treatment being confidential.
Have you taken a repeat pregnancy test, even if it was eptopic it would come up positive. In this incident the pain is likely to be completely unbearable. It is also extrememly important that you are seen in a hospital for this as a ruptured fallopian tube can cause serious complications. It doesn't sound like you are pregnant, but you shouldn't be having so much pain so I would get yourself checked out.
I talk quite openly with my parents about my sexual relationships, and spoke to my mum about it before I took my first relationship to this level. However, I do respect everyone is different. I would still encourage you to discuss this with your parents, or mum. Its not ideal letting her know that you are growing up, but I am quite sure she will be proud that you are being mature and sensible. You dont have to tell her about the MC, but I would tell her that you used a condom which split, you took the pill after and now you have these on going problems. She may have similar experience that she can help you with, or she may know of a family problem relating to the morning after pill (I am assuming this is plan b). Parents dont miss much, and they probably already know, if they dont they will probably have noticed the discomfort you are in and will be worried.
Regardless if you choose not to tell your parents, I would urge you to be checked by a doctor. It is important to make sure you had a complete MC. I hope you are feeling well again soon.
Kind regards,
Christine
