Managing Intense Emotions: Strategies for Emotional Regulation

Question
I am 21 yrs old. I am just curious as if there is help for me or what I can do. I can't control my emotions. My biggest fear is hurting someones feelings. If I know I have hurt someone I feel the need to punish myself, I hate myself and I cry until I get lost in a stare. Little things can make me irrate, I try to count to ten, breathe and relax but once I hit that point, I want to break things, scream, yell, cry and am so full of anger energy I have to do something to get it out of me so I can be calm. I put myself in others people shoes, but actually feel there pain. If on tv someone has died, I cry because I some what feel what that family is feeling, and I get so frustrated because there is nothing I can do to help. Some times I feel like my emotions run my life, I hold my emotions inside, and never tell people how I truly feel becuase I don't want to upset them. I hate confritation and tried to avoid it at any cost except for with my boyfriend. Once I have that feelings of lettings some one down or hurting them, I get hysterical and hypervenalate as said before until I get lost in a daze or a stare. Is there anything I can do to overome this and not be so emotionally overactive or exaggerated. The littlest thing would help, I would never kill myself but its gotten to the point where sometimes I feel I should be dead because I hurt someone and for that I don't deserver to be alive. Thank you for your time.

Answer
This is a followup to your question about becoming emotional about things:
Did you decide to get counseling, and if so, did that help you?  I just want to make sure that you followed up.

--Maggie Smith, RN, MSN