QuestionI'm 15 years old and I just found out I was 6 weeks pregnant the other day and I'm very scared. The father is my boyfriend but we fight constantly and I can't bring a child into the world with all thats going on and I don't want him to change his mind and break up with me so I've considered abortion. I've been crying since yesterday, I don't wanna have an abortion but I'm not ready to be a mother right now. I feel so bad for takin my babys life away, he or she has a heart beat already and everytime I think of that I cry. I have nobody to talk to and I feel alone. I'm scared about the abortion because I heard it could be painful, if I get an abortion would I be able to get a light numbing medication to relief the pain, i heard they can do this, is this true?
AnswerHello Stephanie,
I just wanted to follow up and see how you are doing. I hope you are well.
Let me know if you need to talk or anything. My email is Mthompson6887@nycap.rr.com
God bless.
Michelle
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Hi Stephanie,
I know you are scared...I've been there, too. It is a very tumultuous time for any woman to deal with an unplanned pregnancy. Don't get an abortion to save your relationship...if you have an abortion because you don't want him to break up with you, you will end up breaking up anyway. Trust me. You will both never feel the same way about each other again, especially if you are already having troubles.
It is important that you listen to your heart telling you not to kill your baby. If you have an abortion with any doubts, you will have a really tough time later in life. I know...I still think about my baby to this day, 17 years later.
A story...my mother got pregnant with me at age 16 and my dad was 19...they were not married. This was in 1968, before abortion was legal, so it was not an option. My dad and mom got married before my birth and went on to have another baby four years later (my sister). I think about it every day. I may not have been born if abortion had been legal. My life has not been perfect, but nobody's life has, either. Life is about embracing the curve balls that come our way. We are judged not on how easy our life is, but how we respond to hardship. All of your experiences come together to make you WHO YOU ARE. You never stop changing, even when you get old like me (38). Believe me, when you finally do decide to have children, the reality of an abortion will hit you like a ton of bricks. I was always pro-choice, until my first son was born. I looked into his beautiful face and felt a love like no other. I also realized the true tragedy of my actions, which were further compounded after my second son was born.
There are many risks in having an abortion. Abortionists don't want you to know how developed your baby is; how big the baby is; the psychological consequences of abortion, even decades later.
The pain of abortion is more than physical. I remember that it was very uncomfortable physically, but more vivid in my mind was my heart crying out in pain for my baby and my tears flowing like rain. The nurse told me "ssshhhh, it's not a baby" and it made me feel sick to my stomach. Abortionists take advantage of mothers in their most confusing time in order to make money...they're not interested in counseling you on ALL of your options. They are just interested in getting you to choose abortion.
I'd like to invite you to visit my blog at http://www.prolifepajamamama.blogspot.com
There I have thoughts about various abortion issues, as well as a LOT of links to other sites where you can find REAL information about abortion.
I also encourage you to find a Crisis Pregnancy Center in your area by visiting
http://www.pregnancycenters.org/advantage.asp
There you will find loving and caring people whose sole purpose is to care for you and your baby, both before and after birth. They will help you find help during your pregnancy with financial help, parenting classes if you choose to keep your baby, or connecting you with adoption agencies if you choose to go that route. If you keep your child, they can also give you free baby supplies, diapers, clothes, formula, and connect you with other resources to get additional help.
I know you're scared, but again I encourage you to find out all you can about all of the aspects of abortion, including the physical, psychological, and emotional risks. I will keep you in my prayers and pray that you will choose life for your baby.
