QuestionHi, I had an abortion two weeks ago. It was a mistake. I want to get pregnant what can I do to get pregnant again?
Will i have any problems with the pregnancy?
AnswerHello, Rosela,
I am very sorry about your mistake, and I will offer to talk with you to help you get past the way you feel, and to heal emotionally and spiritually.
What you are seeking to do is to have a replacement baby. This is a fairly common reaction a lot of women have. However, it is also often true that because conditions don't change, and they are faced with the same problems, they just end up having another abortion.
Unfortunately, the baby you lost cannot be replaced. That is simply the way it is. I wish I could tell you differently.
As for having problems with another pregnancy, you very well might. Abortion does permanent damage to the reproductive system of about 1/3 of the women who have one. Whether or not allowing healing for awhile helps, I'm not sure anybody really knows, but I would certainly think that it would help to wait and let your body heal. There are several known problems. If you had a surgical abortion, you may have difficulty carrying the weight of a full term baby. The way in which the cervix is forced open causes micro-tears, and this weakens the cervix. The remedy is for the doctor to fasten the cervix shut until time for the birth. Without this, some women will experience miscarriage or a very premature baby. Extreme prematurity is a leading cause of cerebral palsy. Abortion can also cause problems at the time of birth. It may cause the placenta of the baby to attach too close to the cervix. During labor, the placenta can then be torn loose, and this causes hemorrhage. The remedy is Caesarian section. Ultrasound can be used to see if this is a problem. It can also cause prolonged labor, and this may also result in a Caesarian section. A woman who has had an abortion is considered high risk, and in Britain, is not eligible for a home birth. There may be other problems. The consequences to future pregnancies is not yet known for the medical abortion.
I hope this helps.
I urge you to wait to get pregnant again. However, the thing a woman has to do to get pregnant is have sex. In your case, having sex may not be a good idea anyway. If you are not in a stable, committed relationship, then it can lead to all kinds of problems, some of them emotional. A stable, committed relationship is one in which the two people put the other person first, and will sacrifice his or her own self-interest for the interest of the other person. Your partner (assuming you are not married) failed to do this in your case, because he put you at risk for pregnancy. A woman should never let a man use her for personal pleasure, but should insist on a permanent commitment (marriage) first. Babies deserve and need to be raised by two people who are committed to each other. It makes a huge difference in how the baby's life goes. Babies raised by two married parents are much more responsible, and much less likely to get into trouble with the law. Please keep in mind that our primary duty as a mother is the well being of our children. While obviously it is better for a baby to be raised by a single mother rather than aborted, to seek to bring a baby into a single parent household is not in the best interests of the baby. I realize this isn't what you want to hear, and I'm sorry.
I recommend you get some counseling. You can find an organization near you where you can have access to counseling and other programs for women who have experienced abortion, given by women who have also experienced abortion and have healed emotionally. You can also get counseling by phone or online. Go here:
http://pregnancycenters.org/
Good luck with this. I hope that there will be a time soon when you will be able to have a baby, but for now, please let your body heal. Take care.
