QuestionQUESTION: I had an abortion via pill method about 10 weeks ago, I bled little after for three days after and nothing since I have done two urine test an both came back negative for pregnancy how ever they said negative before I had the abortion, I only knew I was pregnant because I had all the same symptoms as when I was pregnant with my son. I have servere pain in my tummy, my breasts are still tender, I'm always tired & havnt had a period since the abortion over 10weeks ago. I have been to my Doctor, all she did was tested me for STD's & STI's, test came back normal.... I knew this was not an issue & was very offended by her only testing me for this! Please help me! Thank you in advance!
ANSWER: Hello, Kt,
What symptoms of pregnancy did you experience? If you really were pregnant, you should have had a positive pregnancy test, particularly if you were going to do anything as drastic as taking those powerful pills.
There are other things that can produce some of those symptoms, so this is why I'm asking.
When you had the abortion, how far along did you believe yourself to be? What happened at the time: how much bleeding did you have, did you pass any clots or solid material?
Obviously, your doctor has dropped the ball on getting to the bottom of your problem. If I were in your position, I'd find another doctor. This is especially true if she supplied the pills to you. A person who provides abortions won't want to admit that they caused any problems, and are likely to overlook anything that could be caused by the abortion. Most of them believe that abortion has very few consequences, largely because they don't really follow their clients for any length of time. Many of the consequences are delayed. So find another doctor, and explain everything you have explained to me. Also, get the results of your tests from your doctor so you can see if there were diseases she didn't test for. You would be at risk if you are having sex outside of marriage, if your partner has ever slept with anyone else, even if he hasn't told you about it.
Personally, I think it is much more likely that your problems started with taking the powerful pills. Being tired can be a symptom of some kind of infection, for example. And there may be other causes, including health conditions you don't know about. But the pills are very powerful and can disrupt the chemical balances in your body. One of them is a steroid. The other is a medication for ulcers, and the manufacturer says a pregnant woman should NEVER take it because it can kill her. There seems to be very little literature about the long term effects of the pills. People aren't investigating.
Those are my thoughts for the moment. If you are able to answer my questions, I may be able to tell you more. Please take care.
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QUESTION: Thank you for your response,
I did three clear blue pregnancy test when I had miss my period, but I was convinced that I was pregnant as I had all the same symptoms when I was carrying my son; very tender breasts, feeling drained and the obvious missed period. After the negative pregnancy test I had a blood test and scan that confurmed that I was 5weeks pregnant, I was sent to an abortion clinic wher I was scanned again, I was told that my pregnancy had already ended and I needed to flush the sac out, I was offered the pill. I bled about 4hours after inserting the tablets, it was very light, I had a few clots, I bled for about 3 days. I usually have heavy periods and this bleeding didn't even come close to the amount of blood I usually loose each month. I read the leaflets they gave me and they made me feel confident that the pills wouldn't harm me. Me an my husband would never sleep with anyone else, we are honest people. The only reason for my choice to abort was because after having my son, we have obviously lost my wage due to me being a stay at home mom and we didn't feel that we could afford another baby at this time in our lives, I regret this so much, no only because of the out come of the treatment but I honestly believe I made a huge mistake. It's too late to change my mind now but I really don't want this to make my decision about having more children in the future. I feel like the doctors don't really care!
Thankyou again for you prompt reply.
Regards
kt
ANSWER: Hello, kt,
You're welcome.
Thank you for the additional information. I wanted to think about how to answer you for awhile.
I think it's safe to say the abortion facility people lied to you. If you weren't bleeding, there is no reason to believe that your pregnancy had ended. They are motivated by money and wanting to reduce the population. Also, if your pregnancy had ended, why was there still a sac? The baby would be inside the sac. If your pregnancy had ended, the medically ethical thing to do would have been to allow you to miscarry naturally, rather than give you powerful medication that could kill you. If there was a problem, they could address this later, after you had been given a chance. The leaflets these places hand out whitewash everything. They won't tell you the truth and get your informed consent. And you're right. Abortionists don't care.
It is possible that because of your negative pregnancy tests, you did have an indication that your pregnancy wasn't viable. If you can get your records and consult a doctor about them, the blood test may reveal that you didn't have sufficient hormones to sustain a pregnancy. Right now, you don't really know for sure what did happen.
There is help available to people in your position. There are organizations all over UK that provide this help. To find one near you, go to this web site:
http://heartbeatservices.org/index.php/connections/worldwide-directory
I recommend you do that now, so that you will get this information for future use. They do help with financial issues. But for the moment, they can offer you a couple of services that you need at this point. One is that they can recommend a doctor who operates ethically and will care about you enough to get to the bottom of your problems. The other is that you will most likely need some counseling, since you said that having an abortion was a mistake.
I am very sorry for the regret you are experiencing. Many women feel this regret. You are not alone.
I want to talk a little bit about how you are feeling. You have every right to feel regret, and you should allow yourself to mourn. You lost something precious, and from the sound of things, there is very little blame to be given to you. People need to learn to stay away from abortionists, but it's perfectly understandable that they wouldn't realize what bottom feeders these folks are. Everything we read and hear tells us that they are honorable and safe. Don't take the blame for any of the lies they told you. Ask God for forgiveness for what blame you do have, and trust that He has forgiven you; He has already paid the price. He loves you and wants to help you put this behind you so that you can have good fellowship again. So often abortion gets in the way of our relationship with God. You will also need to work on forgiving yourself. Forgiveness is a choice, a decision to accept the hurt that you have been caused. Forgiving yourself is your act to put your trust in God, that He has forgiven you, to accept His forgiveness. Allow yourself to grieve, and know that it will get better. You will eventually be able to reach a peace about this provided you trust in God. It will take time. Be patient with yourself. Take one day at a time, or one hour at a time. You won't want to forgive yourself, and you will probably have to tell God that you don't want to, and He will have to help you. You may have to do this several times. If you can get some good counseling, this should also help.
I will pray for you. Please take care, and keep in touch.
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QUESTION: Thank you for your advice. I was refered to my lacal a&e today where they have discovered I have a fever, infection from the abortion & blood in my urine. Has given me a course of antibiotics an some pain killer to ease my pains.
Hope it works.
Thank you for all your advice and support.
Much thanks
kt
AnswerHello, kt,
You're welcome, and thank you for the rating and the very kind words.
I am glad they were able to find an infection and provide treatment. If your doctor didn't give you any pro-biotics, you will need to get some. Antibiotics not only destroy harmful bacteria, but good bacteria as well. This can lead to intestinal problems. Some sources of pro-biotics include FRESH live-culture yogurt (the problem being that the culture tends to die off), and some fermented foods such as Kombucha. This is a fermented tea. Make sure that whatever you eat or drink doesn't have artificial sweeteners. Some health food stores also sell pills with acidophilus and other beneficial bacteria. They have to be kept refrigerated.
Good luck with this, and please keep in touch!
