QuestionHi there - I stumbled upon your page when I read of a similar situation I am experiencing.
I am 31 and approx 6-7 weeks pregnant. I am VERY TORN between having an abortion as this would be my third {I had my 1st @ 18 and a 2nd @ 24}. Deep down I feel and yearn to be a mother and when I initially found out I was pregnant this time, I was a bit happy. But logically and even financially {I have a BUSY career as owner of an event planning company - but money is not always consistent} I don't think I am ready. I am recently divorced and have been with my boyfriend for only 5 months - he does well financially, but he has expressed that he does not want a repeat split-home situation {as he has a 7-year old daughter from a previous relationship}. Although he said time and time again that ultimately it is my decision, I can't help but weigh in on his feelings about this. He has expressed that he is certain he wants a future with me but that we should maybe try for a child in a year or so when our relationship is far more progressed and we are better prepared.
I have not visited my Dr. yet as I just got back on health benefits and am waiting {any day now} for my cards/papers to come thru before I can make this appt and consult with him. I know this is a very important thing to do at this point! My concern is that the possibility of having a 3rd abortion will be physically risky and even more emotionally draining and traumatic than the others {my first was the worst} especially since I am considering having the baby. ADDITIONALLY, I took the Plan B pill about a week or so around the time I think I might have conceived {or perhaps it wasn't effective and I conceived that time - either way both circumstances are a week a part} and I am also VERY WORRIED that the pill may have an adverse effect on the embryo/fetus?
Please let me know your thoughts on 3rd abortions for women on their 30's as well as the Plan B instance and if you think this all would be risky if I decide to have the baby or terminate the pregnancy??? I am most appreciative for your un-biased and experienced opinion.
Thank you!
AnswerDear Monique,
I do not recommend using Plan B. I read some information here http://www.optionline.org/map.html
that is disturbing to me.
I would recommend that you join the yahoo group at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/unplanned_pregnancy_help/
You will find women there who have been through abortion and choosing to keep their baby or babies.
If you are really considering all the possibilities, to me, it's saying that you are not sure on your decision. If you worry about regrets or possible emotional or physical concerns, then I would say you might not be a good candidate for another abortion.
I could talk a lot more but I would rather that you email me privately. My email address is
CHERYL51@aol.com so hope to hear from you soon. I know I haven't answered all your questions so hope we can talk by email.
Sincerely,
Diane Cheryl
