QuestionI had my first abortion two weeks ago and started birth control pills the day after as doctor ordered my partner and I had sex and the condom slipped off however he was quick to noticed and pulled out just before he ejaculated. I took my birth control soon after will I be safe from another pregnancy? My check up is in 8 days.
AnswerHello, Jessica,
You didn't say what kind of abortion you had. However, it is unlikely you would be fertile within two weeks of an abortion.
Having had an abortion makes you much more likely to get breast cancer. It tends to strike a woman while she is still young, such as in her 30's, and it kills 1/4 of its victims. If you have a close family member who has had breast cancer, you are almost certain to get it. There are also other possible consequences from abortion, some of them serious. The more abortions you have, the greater the damage, and abortions can hurt your future children as well. And you really shouldn't be having sex at this time because of the danger of infection. Most people recommend a woman wait three weeks.
As long as you continue to have sex, you are at risk from pregnancy. Birth control pills are not that reliable; they are not 100%. They also carry medical dangers. They change a woman's chemistry so that she is more susceptible to sexually transmitted diseases as well. You could get an STD from the abortion itself (if it was a surgical abortion), or if your partner has ever slept with anyone else, even if he hasn't told you, you are at risk.
Birth control pills have to be taken regularly, at the same time of day. One reason they tend to fail more often in people who aren't married is because people tend to take them more erratically.
Condoms don't work. They just delay things, sometimes, anyway. You have already learned one reason they don't work. They slip off. A man will usually give off a drop or two before ejaculation, and that is enough to make a woman pregnant.
Among other things, sex is for making babies. It is unwise to have sex outside of marriage. The emotional consequences can also be serious. There is a lot of turmoil involved when the people aren't married, especially for the woman. It also causes people to lose their ability to trust when they do get married.
Your partner is getting pleasure from your body, while you are bearing all the medical risk. That's not reasonable. You deserve better. Since you have had one abortion, you'd think he would be a little more concerned about putting you at risk again. If he truly cherished you, he would never have agreed to you having the first abortion. You are probably not at risk for pregnancy this time, but you will be if you continue. So unless you want another abortion, you really should stop. Have a talk with him. If he truly turns out to be more concerned about his own pleasure than your well being, you really should find someone else.
Also, please see a different doctor to get checked. Abortionists are not very good at admitting when they hurt a woman.
Please take care, and don't take any more chances.
