QuestionHello,
I had a surgical abortion on the 7th of July. It has been past 6 weeks and I have not had a period. Some sites say it is a cause for concern and to see a doctor if you don't menstrate by this point. Other sites claim that it takes a while for your body to adjust and to not be alarmed. There was an incident 2.5 weeks after the abortion where my boyfriend was inside me for 2 split seconds before I freaked and proceeded orally. I know he was not near ejaculation because he was inside me for such a breif amount of time. I do feel the same signs I did in early pregancy, pulling pinching cramps in my lower back and abdomen. I read somewhere that that is normal after abortion before you are about to get your period.
I suppose I question if I am pregnant again. I was instructed to wait till my first peiod before getting the IUD inserted and to use other methods of birth control in the meantime. Have you heard of these early pregnancy symptoms occuring before periods after abortion?
AnswerHello, KD,
It does take a woman's body awhile to return to a non-pregnant state. Actually, both are right. Six weeks does seem excessive.
It is possible to become fertile before having a period. My experience with fertility awareness tells me that. And yes, a split second inside can be enough to result in pregnancy. He might leave a drop of fluid behind, and that's all it takes. There is no such thing as "normal" after an abortion, but I would expect some women would get pulling pinching cramps.
You are living dangerously. Oral sex can lead to cancer of the mouth and esophagus. It is not a practice I would recommend, and personally I think it is disrespectful to the woman. I would venture to guess that your boyfriend doesn't respect you very much, and doesn't respect your body. You have already been subjected to a dangerous abortion, and here he is, taking advantage of you sexually again. Maybe you enjoy it as well, but is it worth the risk?
IUDs are also not safe, and they're not completely reliable.
You should have a talk with your boyfriend. Will he respect you enough not to put you at risk again. If not, you deserve someone better. Breaking up would obviously be emotionally difficult, but it will also make you available for someone who will truly cherish you and not just use you as a sex object. Your talk with your boyfriend will let you know whether or not he truly cares about you. If he does, he will agree to abstain from sex and not put you at risk for either pregnancy or disease.
You may be able to test for pregnancy at this point. Some tests are sensitive enough, and some aren't. For more information on the sensitivity of tests, please go to this web site:
http://www.afterabortion.com/pregnancy_test.html
Regardless of the outcome of this test, test again in a week. If you got a positive test the first time, see if the test seems less positive next time. If you got a negative test this time, and a positive test the second time, you may well be pregnant again.
Abortion is dangerous and can kill you. Please don't ever have another abortion. Your surgical abortion has already greatly increased the risk you will have a premature baby with birth defects in the future, so be sure and tell your doctor when you get prenatal care, so he can take appropriate steps to prevent you from having a premature baby. Your surgical abortion has also greatly increased the chance you will have a tubal pregnancy, miscarriage, complications at a future birth, and breast cancer. If you experience pain during early pregnancy, have it checked out. Tubal pregnancy is a life-threatening emergency and requires immediate surgery. To help safeguard against breast cancer, have regular thermograms. Don't get mammograms; they can spread the cancer. Also, make sure you maintain a healthy level of Vitamin D in your body. I recommend 5000IU of Vitamin D3 a day, and you will need to have your blood tested to make sure you don't overdose. Also, I recommend Resveratrol.
If it turns out you are pregnant again, I can give you links to resources that will be helpful. I do consider it unlikely, but not impossible. Please let me know how things turn out, and please stay safe!
