QuestionQUESTION: Hi I had a surgical abortion a month ago and was 7 weeks along when I had the procedure. Since I have been having this whitish discharge and am a bit concerned. I took my antibiotics like I was supposed to. I bled for like a day after the procedure and then it stopped and started back up a few days later for like a week and was fairly lite bleeding. And then I hadn't taken a bath for 2 weeks after, although I did take showers before the 2 weeks. and then On the 3rd week after my boyfriend and I kinda got into it and we started messing around a bit and did get a bit intense when he pulled his finger out there was a decent amount of blood on it, and I spotted for the next day after that. I was just wondering what would cause that and also the discharge(which I guess the discharge may be a yeast infection) But if you could inform me on this I would greatly appreciate it. Cause I thought after 3 weeks I would be ok for sex related things again. And also I still have a bit of a pudge in the stomach area afterward, is that normal? I mean I don't think I am pregnant anymore and am actually losing weight so idk. Thanks for your help.
ANSWER: Hello, Kiersten.
If you have been having whitish discharge for awhile, then you are right about the possibility of infection. There are some organisms that don't respond to antibiotics. It would be wise to try to get a diagnosis. Intermittent bleeding is common. Abortion has a huge impact on a woman's hormones, so unexpected bleeding is part of that.
I hope your you and your boyfriend are no longer putting yourself at risk. Fingers can be a problem IF he touched himself before using the finger on you. The movement of whatever was inside causes a physical situation that can result in bleeding. You really deserve better. You deserve his respect and protection. Sex is for making babies, among other things. It may be enjoyable, but there are other ways to enjoy each other, or to provoke the hormones that result in pleasure after sex. Moderate exercise will produce the same hormones. It's a lot healthier. If you continue to have sex, you're not just at risk from pregnancy. If he ever slept with anyone else, whether he's told you or not, he can pass on some infection or the other. You can also get an infection from a surgical abortion. Many abortion facilities in the United States are very, very careless with sterility. An infection could be yeast, or it could be a number of other things, some of which will make you sterile. Some of these infections can be silent. You may experience pain eventually, but you may not.
There is nothing normal about having an abortion, and nothing normal about what happens afterward. But I would think that if you had a pudge before, still having one wouldn't be that unusual. Be careful not to let your eating habits become significantly different, without a reason grounded in good health.
Give this some thought. Think about your future, and what you want out of life. Do you want someone who will cherish you? Are you more focused on pleasure than anything else? Why take the risk of an abortion? Abortion can kill you or cause serious harm. A surgical abortion can harm your future children, and any abortion can cause some fairly serious diseases later in life. Have a talk with your boyfriend about this. If he is worthy of you, he will stop taking advantage of your body.
I do recommend you go to the doctor with the white discharge. Keep an eye on the bleeding. Sometimes they cause more injury than they intend to. But perforations of the uterus are common as well. Also, the cervix is almost always damaged. This could also lead to bleeding or spotting. Please let me know what you find out. Take care.
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QUESTION: well See it wasn't him I had been taken advantage of and it was causing some health issues for me. He does cherish me and he wasn't the one who caused that. I'm just curious if the bleeding meant that I wasn't fully healed up yet. And also when should I expect my first period since this?
AnswerHello, Kiersten,
You really should talk to him, and you need to resolve not to endanger yourself any further. Wait until you are willing to accept a child before having sex.
The bleeding means that your body is not back to normal. And nobody can tell you when you will have your first period. Every woman is different, and because of the way abortion disrupts a woman's hormones, anything is possible. And you can be fertile before you have a period.
Please take care of yourself and stop taking chances!
