QuestionQUESTION: hi,i am 20yrs old and married.i got my periods last month august 23 and i am almost 3 weeks pregnant.but i am not mentally prepared to have a baby now.planning to have a medical abortion.since this is my first pregnancy my friends studying for medicine tells that i may hav difficulties in becoming pregnant again. plz do tell me about the medical risk of abortion for first pregnancy. hoping to hear from u soon.
ANSWER: Hello, Farha,
Your friends are right, and they aren't telling you the rest of the dangers, apparently.
Not wanting to be pregnant is actually fairly common among women in the early weeks, and it is partly due to hormones. But right now, you don't have to do anything. By the time you are in the second trimester (three months), you will probably be ready. Most women are. You need to give yourself a chance.
The truth is, abortion is very dangerous. It can kill you. Women often bleed to death during a pill abortion, or they may develop an infection that will kill them within hours. Sometimes the drugs rupture a woman's uterus. Do you have the money to pay for the medical care you might need to save your life? If you develop an infection, they may not even be able to save your life. I don't know of anyone who has survived such an infection. It can also cause you to develop breast cancer or auto-immune disease such as lupus. And it can cause serious emotional problems. Women are much more likely to commit suicide after an abortion. They refuse to investigate and see what harm a pill abortion might do to future children. Sometimes a pill abortion is not successful, and they follow up with a surgical abortion. We DO know that surgical abortions can cause serious birth defects in future children. There are many, many other possible complications, so let me know if you want to know more.
You really owe it to your husband not to endanger yourself in this way, and he owes it to you to protect you from these poisons.
This also may well be the only baby you conceive. It won't be possible to say for sure that the pills kept you from having a child later on, but if you are only destined to have one child, then obviously, the pills will have kept you from having a child.
I hope you won't take this terrible risk. I have talked to many women here who are bleeding uncontrollably. Please don't become one of them. Stay safe. Let me know how things go, and keep in touch.
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QUESTION: I am 8 weeks pregnant and had my ultra sound scan today. The doctor said the baby's heart beat was very weak and they are not able to record it. wanted to know if this was normal. this was the same thing they said 2 weeks ago.
AnswerHello, Farha,
Thank you very much for writing to me again!
Ultrasounds are not always very good at showing how healthy a baby is. If the baby is lying in the uterus in some position where the ultrasound cannot see the heart well, it may sound weak. The fact that the heart sounded weak two weeks ago, but it is still there is encouraging. The important thing is that you should not rely on the ultrasound. We simply don't know how healthy the baby is at this point. There is no way to tell. Ultrasound isn't good enough. Even if they tell you they can't hear the heartbeat at all, it doesn't necessarily mean there is something wrong. If your baby is too weak to survive, it will become obvious in time. As long as your baby is still growing, there is hope. If the doctor wants to "do something" about the situation, tell him No. There is no reason to intervene. You are safe. I once had a situation where I was actually bleeding profusely, but I had no pain. I talked to a doctor I know, and he said as long as I had no pain, I shouldn't worry about it. I followed his advice, and it turned out well. Hang in there. Don't do anything except take care of yourself. Please keep in touch and let me know how things go.
