QuestionQUESTION: Im worried, i had a medical abortion on the 21st May.at the time i was 3weeks pregnant. Since then i havent bled except once after my boyfriend fingerd me.it was spoting...am i still pregnant?im woried becoz many woman speak about heavy bleeding and clots soon after,but i had none of that.except a pain that comes and goes. Thank you in advance for your answer.
ANSWER: Hi, Nina,
I would have to say that if all you got was spotting, it probably didn't work. You didn't tell me which medication you took. That is important. You also didn't tell me where you got it. If you got it off the street, it could have been anything, and not necessarily what you thought you were getting. Please give me some additional information. And please don't take any more chances with your life. Medical abortions are dangerous and can kill you. Let me hear from you, and I will see if I can tell you anything else that might be helpful. And you're welcome.
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QUESTION: the medication i got was at the clinic. im not sure what it was, but it was a once off that the nurse gave me. No follow pills or medication.
AnswerNina,
Given they gave you only one course of medication, and given the other things you told me, I'd have to say it's unlikely it did anything.
I urge you to find a different doctor, someone who considers both you and your unborn child to be patients. People who give you some of these medications may even be committing malpractice, given that one of the medications they sometimes use can cause a woman's death within hours, and the manufacturer says NOT to use it with a pregnant woman.
Abortion is dangerous no matter how it is done. It is much safer to carry the baby. Seriously. There are so many ways abortion can kill or maim a woman it isn't funny. You really deserve better. The people who work at some of these clinics have stopped caring if they hurt women, a long time ago. Doctors are supposed to keep the maxim, first do no harm. Pregnancy is a normal condition we were made for. There is no medical reason to do an abortion in most cases. There is no reason why we should be subjected to that. We deserve better.
Have a talk with your boyfriend. There are other ways to express affection. He has the responsibility to protect you, not subject you to potential harm. Much of the problem arises because young women don't understand male sexuality. When we have sex, we bond with our partner. This is because of the hormones our bodies produce. The man has no such experience. A man can walk away from the situation emotionally. And a lot of them will say things just to get access to a woman's body. They may think they mean some of what they say, but we women tend to misinterpret what they say. A woman deserves a man who will cherish and protect her. If your boyfriend is pressuring you in any way, or if he is abandoning you emotionally, it's important for you to think about what you want in a long-term relationship. Do you want someone who cherishes you, or someone who just uses your body for pleasure? You need to know if this man cares enough about you to put your needs ahead of his own. If not, you are better off finding someone else, no matter how emotionally painful it might be.
About the pain that comes and goes, I need to ask you how frequently you have it. Is it every several minutes, or is it every several hours? If it's every several minutes, your body may be trying to go into labor, but what you took wasn't sufficient. But the problem is, if what you took isn't sufficient, it is dangerous to take any more. Like I said, it could kill you within hours. It could cause contractions so severe they rupture your uterus. It can also cause infections that can kill you within hours. It's not worth it. You deserve better. Please take care of yourself, and don't take any more chances. If you are still pregnant and need any kind of help, you can find a group or agency that will help you by going here:
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp
There are over a hundred groups. There are multiple pages of listings. Please contact one of them and ask for help. They can find a decent doctor there, one who will treat you right, and not put your life in danger. Once you are pregnant against your will, none of the choices is easy, but abortion is by far the hardest in the long run. Please stay safe!
