QuestionQUESTION: I appreciate your good concern for ladyhood.
I'm 26 and had an abortion on the 17th of Sept with my hymen still in place. The stuff spilled on my vagina and swam through. I've not had sex. I had to be given anesthesia to make me sleep,because of fear and severe pain. I feel so shameful about all these. I had wanted to get married as a virgin.
I only had very few bleedn after d abortion on that day. Then just being seeing some white fluids since then. Please, is that normal? Also on the following day, was feeling sharp but sharp pains.
What cautions or care should I take to avoid any complication, especially in the future.
Thank you Pat, anticipate your reply.
ANSWER: Hello, Ayoposi,
Lots of people don't know that fluid can get into the vagina through the small opening before the hymen is broken, and this can cause pregnancy. It's unfortunate, because if they knew, they'd make sure they never allowed any semen on the body near the opening. Pregnancy from this is not very common, by the way.
There is something known as secondary virginity. This is when a woman who has "lost" her virginity by some method or the other becomes chaste. If you stay away from situations where you are likely to get undressed while with a man, you will be able to do this.
I don't quite understand what you are saying about having an abortion with your hymen still in place. What kind of abortion did you have? I can't tell you too much about the bleeding and pain until I know more about this. And are you SURE you were pregnant? How did you determine this?
White fluid should be checked out, because it could mean an infection. If you put pills into your vagina, you need to get checked to see if you have Clostridium sordellii in your body. If you do, the doctor must start aggressive life-saving treatment immediately, before your body starts to shut down. Clostridium sordellii can cause toxic shock syndrome, and this will kill a woman in hours. Her body's immune system shuts down and her body doesn't fight back. She won't experience fever, because this is the immune system working.
You should not be feeling sharp pains if you had a surgical abortion. But injuries to the uterus are common, and so is infection.
I urge you to get some counseling because of the experience you have had and the fact that you wanted to get married as a virgin. I am sure that you must be having some fairly serious emotional repercussions. You can find counseling that is for abortion experienced women by finding an organization in your area that helps women in your situation, and they have counseling programs. To find one near you, please visit this web site:
http://www.optionline.org/
I will also be here for you and we can talk any time. Please take care of yourself, and don't go to private places with guys. Let me know how you do, and let me know what kind of abortion you had.
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QUESTION: Thank you so muchly.
I feel cared about indeed.
I discovered I was pregnant by using the pregnancy test strip in my urine, also confirmed at the hospital with my blood sample.
It was called D&C with some metals.
But was deeply asleep all the while. I meant that the hymen was still in place before the abortion.
I started seeing probably my menstrual flow on the 21st. I experience pain in the lower part of my stomach while and few minutes after urinating. Also severe pain around my anus. Though I use to exprience the pain around my anus before the pregnancy saga, but this time, its so severe.
How can a woman become chaste and what does that mean?
Thank you for your good time and love
AnswerHello, Ayoposi,
You're welcome. I am glad you feel that I care about you, because I do.
Thank you for the clarifications.
Pain when you urinate could also indicate a possible infection, or an injury from the abortion. You should have your anus checked out as well. Infection and physical injury are both common after surgical abortion. And a surgical abortion can harm your future children, so when you are pregnant, it is important to let the doctor know, so he can use treatments that may help prevent damage. Surgical abortion weakens a woman's cervix so it may not be able to hold the weight of a full sized baby. The doctor can do something called cerclage to hold it shut until time for birth. Surgical abortion can cause miscarriage or very early birth. Very early birth is a major cause of serious birth defects. All of this is why it is so important that you have yourself checked out.
Being chaste means never taking your clothes off in front of a man you're not married to, not going to a private place with him where sex would be possible, and not being seductive in public in front of men. It means not putting yourself at risk, and keeping sex for when you are married. When you are married, being chaste means not having sex with anyone but your husband. I hope this helps.
Please do take advantage of the resources I have given you. Please take care, stay safe, and keep in touch.
