QuestionI had an abortion last friday when I was 7w5d. I have a 3 year old. As per the notes from the doctor I am not suppose to lift anything over 15 pounds for 3 weeks. I have a 3 yr old son who is very active and he is 28 pounds. I am trying my level best to avoid carrying him. But wanted to know whether I have to really wait for 3 weeks and avoid carrying him? My bleeding stopped yesterday and I am taking complete rest now. Also when do I have to check again for pregnancy to make sure the abortion is complete.
AnswerHello, jaxpt,
If you lift anything heavy, you may start bleeding, so they are right to warn you. It shouldn't be necessary to carry your 3 year old. If you are having discipline problems, it is a good idea to do something about it at this point. I won't give you a lot of tips just now, but I will give some general principles. Rules should be simple but consistent. And don't nag at him. Expect compliance when you tell him to do (or not do) something, and the consequences should follow immediately if he doesn't do what you said. And consequences should also be consistent. Consequences should be relevant. If you find he is not responding to your discipline, please send me a private message, and I will go into some detail about the situation. Take a look at what he is eating. If he is getting a lot of sweets, or artificial sweeteners, or monosodium glutimate, that could contribute to the problem. If you have been carrying him to get him to a place of confinement, insist he walk to that place. You can take his hand and pull him if necessary. If he refuses to walk, just keep insisting until he goes. Don't give up. It is vitally important you win the confrontation. Make sure that you are not angry when you discipline him. If you feel angry, give yourself a chance to calm down. Don't bribe him. What I mean by that is, don't tell him that if he is good, you will give him some kind of reward. That tends to make children decide to misbehave so they can then start behaving and get the reward. Make sure he has interesting things to do, but don't encourage TV (don't let him watch violence or cartoons and that sort of thing). Read to him. If he is in day care part of the time, you might want to consider finding an alternative (such as keeping him home) because children can pick up a lot of bad habits in day care, not to mention infections. Childproof your house. Since you are trying not to do much, take it easy, but work on it a little at a time. I think I can help you if you are willing; I raised seven children, and I never had any serious discipline problems, especially at the age of 3. So I have some experience.
It's not a good idea to have complete bed rest for three weeks. That will cause you to become weak. You need to be moving around. If you start to bleed again, see if you can get some cayenne (a supplement) from your local health food store and take it, or eat some very spicy food with red hot peppers in it. You shouldn't be driving, either, though.
I'll write more later; please ask questions. Take care of yourself.
