QuestionI'm a 41 yr old Male. With all immediate family living, shy one sister who was killed in an automobile accident some 20 years ago. I have been depressed, my mother confirming this statement, most of my life. I was born severely anemic, with the cord wrapped around my neck, and asthmatic. I was kept from playing all "the reindeer games", due to illness, medication and an over protective mother. Thus never learning common social skills. I was also teased about my name, which caused even further separation from reality, and society. My parents were both alcoholics. They divorced after seventeen years when I was 8yrs. The cause of divorce, as far as I can tell, is: drunkenness, drug abuse, and sexual misconduct that would include incest and molestation to my other siblings. I was never touched in this manner as far as I can remember but I really don't remember much about my youth other than a few vague circumstances. My older brother is what appears to be a severe alcoholic, and my younger brother is in the state pen, due to drug related sexual offences. I have struggled with moral depravity in the sexual arena since puberty. I also struggle with alcohol, and marijuana. I am a separated, married man with 5 children. We are separated because of the sexual misconduct. My wife and two oldest daughters said that if I cannot control my problems than I should not be there. My wife has a fear of me molesting my children, as my father did to my siblings.
Anyway I'm a screwed up mess trapped in a lifestyle of never finishing anything that I start. Except for destructive behavior and work.
My symptoms would be anti-social behavior, self-pity, hopelessness, and sometimes suicidal thoughts.
I don't know
What do you think?
Dana
AnswerHi Dana~
I think ppl are a product of their environment. So for you that means you grew up in a very dsyfunctional family! There is hope for you though. If you can admit that you have problems then they can definitely be worked on. I would suggest that you seek some sort of professional help to help cope with all that you have going on in your life right now.
As for you being picked on about your name,I think all ppl,even as children are picked on about something in life at one point or another. And children can be cruel. I can remember being picked on about my glasses and nose. But it didn't affect my mental status. I think one has to love themselves b/c sometimes no one else will. You have to want to better yourself. Only you are in control actions and of your destany,and no one else. So you would have no one else to blame for these current dilemmas and problems but yourself.
You have to be the one that wants to make a change for the better,and not turn out like some of your siblings. You deserve to be happy,and you deserve better than what you are having now (behavior and luck wise). It all starts with you.
