QuestionHi my name is Crystal. I am 25 years old. I have been married to a wonderful man for 6 years and we have 2 children. My problem is that about a month and a half ago my husbands best friend told me that he is in love with me. I didn't tell my husband about this. For the last week I have been having dreams about this and I am feeling very guilty. I am not sure if I should tell my husband. I am very worried about this. I have no intrest in anything happening with the friend but at the same time I feel very guilty. Any advice you can offer would be heplful. Thank you for your time.
AnswerHi Crystal~
Wow! I bet that was very shocking, yet very flattering all at the same time! How did you respond to the friend when he said this? Has it changed the relationship, and how you feel around his friend? I most definitely think that you should tell your husband what he said.
You may start by saying something like: "Honey, I have something to tell you, but I'm a little hesitant to do it b/c I'm not sure how you'll react to this news." "But your friend "X" said about a month ago that he was in love with me. I don't know what to make or think of this, but I want you to know that I have not interest in him whatsoever. I felt that you needed to know this though. I wasn't sure how to break this to you, b/c I don't want this to affect your relationship with "X." So I just wanted to tell you what he said."
And then you can take it from there based on what his response is. He will probably be surprised and maybe even upset or mad that his friend revealed his true feelings for you. The main thing is to be honest and open with him. He needs to know this for sure. Tell him that you waited so long b/c you simply didn't know how to tell him, and you had to think about it (on how exactly to break this bit of news to him).
If you have any further questions please feel free to ask.
