QuestionI was checking our email last week (me and my husband have a shared email address, e.g. ) after I'd bid for something on Ebay [it was a specialist item, needing delivery] to see if I'd won and was surprised by an email I received:
It was off our son-in-law and addressed to my husband, and it read:
Quote:Hi sexy,
thanks for that hot nite of passion we had last week in that hotel, and for taking me out to that Italian restaurant!!
Let's go to another swanky hotel, and have a hot nite of passion, our boring frumpy wives will never know!!
email me some pictures of ur cock, it gives me a hard on!
anyway, meet me soon for another ****ing night of hot sex - better than the wife eh luvaboy?
Luv
Jon Doe*
xxx
*Jon Doe is a pseudonym, not giving out his real name.
The email address it came from was a corporate one (not a hotmail or gmail-type one)
The next day, I asked my husband about it, but he insisted it was a virus, and refused to discuss it any further. However, his body language seemed to indicate he was worried about something.
His behaviour seemed to indicate he was hiding something, but I'm not sure what.
I haven't yet told my daughter about this, fearing she'd never believe me.
What should I do? - this is stressing me out so much I feel on tenterhooks all the time, and work is the only place I can feel happy not having to worry about this.
Any advice is appreciated.
(P.S. I'm British, so all places/people etc. are British).
AnswerHi Sally~
My goodness, you have every right to be stressed out and very concerned. You need to print out that email (if you still have access to it) and show it to your daughter. She has a right to know what her husband is up to with your husband. And then she will have to come to her own conclusion from there. Someone needs to confront the son-in-law and your husband. This can't keep going on that's the whole point. Or if they refuse to stop (even though you know they will deny it), you will have to take matters into your own hands and do what you have to do. If that's to do a trial separation and ultimately divorce him, then so be it. Something has to be done, you can't keep living like this and keep putting up with this. Trust your gut instincts, and always trust them, after all they are there to tell you when something's not quite right. You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. Tell him he's insulting your intelligence b/c you can just tell that he's lying to you and something's bothering him. He needs to know exactly how this is affecting you. And what you're willing and unwilling to put up with in this marriage. If he still denies it and refuses to come clean with you, then you'll have to make your mind up and make some tough decisions in the near future. The choice is yours and it's one that only you can make. Don't sit idly by and let this keep happening or it'll only get worse as time goes on.
