This article is not what you think it is about. No, it is definitely NOT about cheating on your spouse. It is about dating your spouse!
I'll never forget that day. It was 7:30 a.m. on March 19. Like every morning, my focus was 100% on getting the kids out the door and myself ready for work: suit, shoes, coffee, cereal, backpacks and the usual child negotiations.
My husband was looking at me funny that morning. He finally gave me that expectant and irritated look, like I had missed something incredibly obvious, and demanded, "Well?"
I racked my brain. What was it? Was my skirt on backwards? Did I have doggy poop on my heel? Was I running late? I had no idea what was on his mind.
"Do you know what today is?" he asked with a frustrated tone.
"Valentine's Day?" I said hopefully. No, it is March, Jennifer, keep thinking!
"Is it parent teacher conferences?" I tried again. They do happen like every month, it seems. I know this isn't right, but I'm getting desperate. Try as I might, I can't come up with anything.
Scott rolled his eyes, and said, "No, Jen, it's our anniversary." Then he pulled out a pretty little package from behind his back.
I felt terrible. How could I have forgotten? We have been married for 19 years! Actually, it was easy. I have three kids, a full-time job, and lots of other "activities" taking over my brain: cheerleading, client presentations, t-ball practice, diverting embarrassing show-and-tell moments, and planning preteen birthday parties.
Like so many other working moms, I had let kids and work become our life. When Scott and I went out to dinner, we discussed the kids. When we were together on weekends, we were doing kid things. I'll even admit that there have been more than a few nights that one of the kids ends up in bed with us. It goes without saying that this does not inspire romance.
Scott is the greatest guy I know. Yet in spite of all of our together time, I realized that we hadn't really been spending much time together at all. I needed to make him a priority again.
As mothers, we often feel that our children need us more than our spouses do. As working mothers, we also sometimes put our jobs in front of our partners.
This is just a friendly reminder to always take the time to "date" your husband or spouse. A reminder that while your kids and job are both important, so is your spouse. Make him feel important!
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