QuestionI've been married to my husband for a month now, and things have been great so far... until now. We've got a three-year-old daughter and a four-year-old son.
However, recently my husband's changed. He's began ranting about everything and anything, and doesn't even spend time with the kids.
We were at a friend's 20th birthday party, and he spoilt it by ranting about everything, that it embarrassed me so much I had to leave.
Another time, we went shopping to the local Tesco and he ranted about everything by the time we were at the checkout. I felt really upset and apologised to the assistant saying "Ignore my husband, he's just not feeling well!"
No matter where we are, or what we're doing, he rants about it eventually and I feel really upset and embarrassed.
I tried asking him why he feels he has to rant so much, but I just get met with a load more ranting.
He's not physically abusive, or insulting/controlling, and he was lovely when we met. (He still is lovely btw). He was also very romantic too, which he isn't any more now.
He isn't taking any drugs, so that explanation can be ruled out, and he isn't a big drinker - so that can be ruled out too.
He's even ignored our kids to spend time upstairs ranting in his room, about everything.
What should I do about his ranting?? I feel like I have nowhere to turn. I tried talking to my mum and dad about it, but they just didn't get it.
I don't really know where to turn, so what do I do next?? How do I deal with it??
please help me, Laura
AnswerHi Laura,
The reason I haven't written you earlier is that your question is a complicated one. The more I think about it, the more I conclude that something chemical is going on with your husband, and he should have a physical check up to see what's going on. The endocrine system can cause all sorts of problems, and he may even be in a severe depression or be exhibiting symptoms of other mental disorders such as bipolar. One of the symptoms of depression is being irritable and intolerant.
I don't really think there is anything behavior you can do to help the man. I think it is probably a medical issue and you really need to get him to physician to get to the bottom of it.
I hope this helps!
Doctor Becky
