Overcoming Pregnancy & Parenting Fears: A Guide for First-Time Mothers

Question
Hi - this may be a question you have never had before. I am 35 years old and am thinking about having a baby for the first time. The problem is - I just can't get past the fear - fear of actually being pregnant, giving birth to the baby and being a good parent. Is this normal and how can I get over this fear? I am a very sensitive person and so the changes in my body and the actually birth really scare me. I worry about the health of the baby and I also worry about the world we live in and the environment - I don't want to bring a life into this world only to have it suffer at the hands of some crisis. I understand that life is full of ups and downs but as a sensitive person myself, these are the things that concern me. I feel that I have to make a decision soon because of my age and I just don't want to make the wrong one. I have been to the doctor and am healthy - I know how to prepare my body and what supplements are important. My husband and I are financially ready. I just can't seem to bring myself to a decision because of these fears. I'd just like to know if these feelings are normal because I don't have many friends with children or anyone I feel comfortable talking about this to.

Answer
Hi :)

   Having a baby IS a life changing and scary event for everyone!  THAT is a normal fear.  But, when it begins to overwhelm you and cause you great anxiety, it may need some extra help.

   I would suggest you talk with a counselor or therapist to help work through some of the anxiety.  It could really, really help!  Your not crazy, your really not!

   Your concerns are genuine, it just the reaction that may be to overwhelming to handle.

  Talking with a professional could have tremendous benefits to you, your husband AND your future family!

Take care and the best to you!