Seeking Support: Dealing with a Difficult Experience in Egypt

Question
Dear Danielle,

first i'd truely like to thank you for your efforts to make people feel better and safe...your making the world a better place in your own way.God bless you

i'm a 24 year old girl who lives in Egypt,as you might know, it's socially and religiously forbidden here to have sexual interourse before marriage. unfortunately i've had that experience a few days ago when i got drunk with a "so called friend" who then used me.

we didn't have sex, i'm still a virgin but he did rub his organ on my panties and ejaculated just below my navle. i think some of it might of slid to my vagina but i'm not sure. this was the on the 3rd of November 2011. i'm not sure if i'm pregnant but i feel strangely and suddenly nauseated and it would be a social disaster to be pregnant.

i can't go to a doctor for that reason and can't tell anyone either. of course the "friend" abandoned me when i told him of my fears so i'm on my own.

i really need help i don't know what to do. should i take a counter act pregnancy drug? i've only heard of them. and if i turn out to be pregnant (can i be sure without and ultrasound? my period is due the 11th of November) is there medication i can take and still be a virgin?

i took a vow after being in this situation not to drink again. but i want to be given a chance to get better before my life is ruined.

please help me, you're the only one who can.

Thank you so much

Answer
Hi Sara :)

Wow, thank you so much for the kind words! That really means a lot to me :)

I can tell you that if you were pregnant? You wouldn't be having symptoms right now.

What would need to happen is that you ovulated-your ovary (one of the two) releases an egg, which travels down the fallopian tube, where it would be met by sperm-all who need to survive a very hostile environment, making it through your vagina, then cervix, then uterus, then into the fallopian tube and meet the egg, fertilize it, and then for about a week, that fertilized egg has to travel to the uterus, and implant, at which point you would become pregnant.

I'm sorry you'v had to deal with this, your "friend" sounds like an awful jerk. If you want resources dealing specifically with such experiences, please feel free to ask!

Now, it is technically possible sperm survived being outside the body, went through the fabric of your clothes, got to your vaginal opening, etc,-but you are most likely not pregnant. The option available would be emergency contraception-it is a high dose of birth control which shuts down your ovaries, telling them not to release an egg. That can be taken up to 5 days after the incident. Whether you take is is up to you, it is not necessary.

What you can do is an over the counter pregnancy test, if you desire, 19 days after the incident in question, where you can trust a negative test result, if yo're concerned.