QuestionHi, Just over a year ago i had a abortion at 8 weeks. At the time i felt this was
the only option has i was not finacially stable and couldnt support a baby. My
partner was supportive. Sadly after a conscious sedation the preocedure was
incredibly painful and traumatic, even though this was a well known private
clinic i had retained tissue and a infection that left my hospitalised on a drip
for two days. I was emotionally and physically in a lot of pain. I constantly
worried that this would mean i would have trouble with any future planned
pregnancies. Over a year on i have found myself pregnant again, i was
devastated when i found out as i am now in a financial position to have a
child, have a supportive partner BUT i am unmarried and terrified of having a
baby and my families shocked (perhaps negative) reactions as well as how
this would affect any dreams i have, I am 26 years old. I have considered
having a 2nd abortion even though i know this is for selfish reasons such as i
am building my career etc. I am also terrified that this pregnancy is lucky
after my previous complications and if i have a 2nd abortion this will increase
the likihood of having complicated if any pregnancies later in life. WHat are
the statistics of this being the case? I am 7 weeks pregnant and although i
would be devastated, but i belive after time i could emotionally recover from
another abortion (i am currently 7 weeks gone..I had a scan yesterday as my
doctor thought this pregnancy could be eptopic....again another worry for
future pregnancies|!!)....Please let me know your thoughts on how this could
affect my future fertility? This is incredibly hard because i am a very maternal
kind of person, just right now is not the correct time for a family!
AnswerMany studies have proven that early abortions are far safer than actual childbirth itself. If you have conceieved again, you can rest easy that your uterus was not perforated, and no lasting damage has happened as a result of the complications from your previous pregnancy. Ectopic pregnancies are not caused by past abortions, they can happen to anyone.
Whether or not you should have an abortion now is completely up to you. Please don't be swayed by anything other than a concern for what is best for you and your life. Many people who have children before they are ready end up resenting their children on a deep level. This is YOUR life, and YOUR choice to make. If you feel that you can make a go of it, and that you would feel guilty forever for having this abortion, don't have it. If you feel that you really do not want to have a child now, that is also your decision. There are no "good" and "bad" reasons for women to have an abortion. There are only reasons that are good enough FOR YOU. I myself had an abortion even though I was married and financially stable, because I just felt it wasn't the right time for me (I had started a new career).
Just rest assured that even multiple abortions do not harm your chances of having babies in the future. Complications are very rare, and this time you can choose a different doctor if you don't trust the old one.
